By far this chapter is my favorite as it stands. There are so many different things that come into play when shaping yourself to who you are. It is very rare to have an understanding of who you are as a person and to love yourself though and through. This chapter speaks a lot on all of the little pieces that make the most beautiful picture. Self-esteem, self concept, self -evaluations, perception, cultural, schema, and breaking all peer pressure and rigid rules into these that make up who you are, all still while acknowledging everyday you change and grow. i am not the same person i was yesterday, let alone 10 years ago. All of these pieces created and helped shape who i am.

ive noticed, like in this chapter, perceptive play a deep role in self esteem. Its more common than not to have a negative self esteem. Again, tying what i had stated about self concept, self esteem should be a comparative idea. Comparing only to your own person, both in where you are tying to go, and where you have come from. Acknowledging both failures, growths, perspective in the differences in experienced cultures, and upbringing that has shaped you they are not good or bad but a complex shaping of a unique being.

Thinking and communicating the way that i do, one of the biggest ways i can comprehend and reevaluate what i had just heard was to compare it to something i am familiar with. I am a strong believer in finding out who you are through self reflection and comparison. When stating comparison i am saying it in the same way this chapter explains, not to one another, but to previous versions of self, to grom and expand on.

i believe that this is the greatest reason why debate is so important. I say debate in the most traditional respectful way. Two people sit opposite of each other discussing their own views and either change each others mind of walk away agreeing to disagree and still as friends. I personally hate debating. My skills in communication and dictating facts without becoming to emotionally driven is hard for me. I do enjoy listening to debates hearing everyones opinions and thoughts is refreshing.

This absolutely fascinated me! i did not realize how common it was for the initial gut reaction of someone person could be right. Of course as we get further into this book it give you more pieces to the puzzle of why that is, like schemata, and the details of perception.

Schemata is so interesting to me. I've never had a name placed to what I've always referred to as "snap judgment". No matter how hard you try everyone who is human always has an immediate judgment on someone right out of the gate called, snap judgment. i feel like schemata elevates snap judgments by including your our personal history with the perception of whomever is sitting infront of you.

This portion of this chapter made me realize how closely connected communication (to the degree that we are about to learn about in this class) and psychology go hand in hand. As communication goes, i know there are words, inflections, context, that all come into play when using the strictest definition of communicating to someone, but the whole entirety of communication also encapsulates the body language, hand gestures things of that nature that can help or hurt the connection you are typing to make with another person that they can perceive differently than intended hurting the relationship you are trying to build by saying "hey how are you?" in a passing manner.

This type of situation that hits my 'tism/adhd ticks with a vengeance. I truly struggle with these daily interactions every time i come into contact with them. As someone with a passion for psychology i do fully understand the reason for phatic communion and why humans in general need these human to human transactions, again the true "lone Wolf" comes into play. Why would someone not shorten the wasted time in having a falsified conversation about how you are doing, when neither party has an interest in the response and usually using these interactions as a segway into talking about themselves. I usually throw a head nod, it saves so much time and the same interest insome one is conveyed. I suppose i come across this issue because i am someone that asks you a question because i actually care about the answer you are giving and have no interest in talking about myself in the process. Im working on this with myself but its the hardest thing in the world to be apart of for myself.

I feel these two point tie into the listen to understand and not to respond practices along with phatic communication. Bringing psychology into this one of the things that is ensured human to human is the interest in themselves, whether self preservation or simply self interest. People usually default to listening to respond due to subconscious need to talk about themselves and relate to themselves.

this statement pairs well with humans being such pack animals. It is very rare to find a person who is truly a "Lone Wolf". I don't know what else to add to this other then that was the thought that popped into my head. communication absolutely is a shaper or world and reality, of a singular person or a whole wide scale.

The entirety of communication differences within cultures is very relevant in my life. I am Bi-Racial with my mother from the borrows in New York and my fathers family from farm land Utah. As a child the differences in communication, family intentions and food are polar opposites of each other. My mothers family, big loud, and proud family block parties are a normal thing done as both a celebration and as a family gathering of support and love. Meanwhile, my fathers side of the family gathers in big numbers that is quiet, intimate, usually at my grandmas house which is a smaller setting. It was an interesting difference growing up in that setting but very relevant to the differences in cultural communication and integrating those differences into each other growing up just being myself in either setting.