Considering in this time period women had almost no power over their own lives. Their feelings however, could not be ruled over. This was something men could not control. While a women may be forced to marry you, you cannot make her love you. Courtly love was the almost delicate approach to what men could not simply force. This in a way liberated and made women take notice of the things they can have control over.

I believe all love, even today, is a game. Someone said this was misogynistic in nature but I disagree. To get a persons number, to use your charm to secure a date, all these things are steps in the path to achieving reciprocated love and affection. This can certainly be done in a immoral manner, such as playing the game of love for personal gain. However, to only look at it from a negative perspective is unfair.

The Arthurian legends in particular focus on the idea of chivalry. Sir Gawain and The Green Knight has chivalry as one of its main themes as well. As the author touched on previously, do these tales show what love was or what it "should" be?