if we find ourselves to be authentic, we use that information to help others to also be able to develop their own authenticity

maybe the stages are more helpful than I realized....

here, we evaluate our authenticity

people may not care so much if they are authentic, but rather if their idea of their own sense of self was useful in their life

tools for discovering people's authenticity

linked to self esteem. higher levels of self esteem = more ability to love is this useful to my essay? maybe not

could potentially be useful, but not necessarily

society matters now more than ever

children need to feel as though they are able to do something for the sake of self esteem, which has a large role in discovering one's authenticity. low self esteem = less authenticity. high self esteem = more authenticity

this is an example of the stronghold society has on children; if society deems a behavior as good, the child will be inclined to continue the behavior and gain approval. at this point, kids do not have the ability to make their own moral judgements. superego becomes more prevalent in someone's life

here is where society makes its first appearance. kids begin to shape their own wants and desires based on what society has laid out for them

children begin to explore and learn to be even more independent

also important because the child learns what is acceptable and what is not...learn the difference between right and wrong

next step on the march to authenticity; more frequent declarations of doing your own thing

important because it also serves as an example of how a child's authenticity begins to develop. they develop their own will to do things that may appeal to them

example

Authenticity begins to show up here. Children start to make some decisions of their own

developing trust has a lot of key roles in development. before even considering personality, one has to be able to trust someone to help them in their time of need

Freud focused his studies on pleasure; Erikson focused his energy on developing one's sense of self

ego is the mediator between the insensitive id and the overly sensitive superego

the last part of this sentence is key, but you would need the first part to understand why. the stages help in developing one's sense of self (authenticity)

ego: the middleman

the battle between the id and the superego

I'm so sorry!! I completely forgot about this assignment. I read the sources, but I forgot to show you that I read them :(

DEVELOPMENT!!!! HOW PEOPLE CHANGE!!!! Literally a paragraph that succinctly embodies my essay topic

these stages are definitely important, but I do not think that they work with the direction and focus of my essay

different circumstances yield different people, different personalities, different forms of authenticity

id, ego, superego. Three major components in developmental psychology

This has a lot to do with discovering authenticity; understanding and discovering people's personalities leads us to understand the differences in authenticity and also the differences in the process of authenticity.

I also use Freud in my essay........The two are linked; they work hand in hand

shows that sometimes, the audience cares wayyy less than we think. could serve as a summary for one of his points

This is his main argument, the idea he wishes to prove ( or further investigate)

I believe that the imagined audiences serve as the motive for this article. He wants to investigate the idea of how we form this image of a particular group of people who are watching our every move (or our every online post). It seems to me that the thought of this phenomenon is what brought about this study

this also brings up a point that in social media outlets with a wide array of audiences, there is almost less room to be yourself because you are trying to please hundreds/ thousands/ millions of people and you know that if you say anything "wrong" or something someone doesn't agree with, you will be scrutinized

therefore, they try to create this sense of a "perfect person" to show the world. this often leads to anxiety to maintain that image and depression when their "perfection" comes crashing down (inevitably). this is not only true for dating sites, but for anything in which anyone can view something about you

why is this so?

kind of self explanatory, but an interesting idea. "how people attempt to present themselves to control or shape how others (called the audience) view them"

the person someone is online is often not the same person they are in the "real world." this brings in developmental psychology; how and why does one go about shaping their persona to an online audience?

interesting angle... I should further evaluate this phenomenon to see if it can be woven into my paper

Key factor in the argument of psychological development; knowing what side of yourself to present in different situations.

also ties in with the debate over authenticity

I could be wrong, but I think this is his main point; that "authenticity" is no simple concept and is one that is much debated and argued about. As time progresses, the perception of authenticity is altered, which leads to conflict of what it truly is.

This also ties in well with psychology. In theory, people try to be true to themselves, but within certain boundaries that society has in place. With that, we find a group whose beliefs match with our own. Yes, it is an elastic concept because once we find a group in which we identify with, we want to stay in that group. As the group's ideologies change, so do ours (in some cases).

This is a topic that comes up a lot these days. The First Amendment gives citizens a right to free speech. However, in this case, along with many others, someone's speech got them in legal trouble. This begs the question: exactly how free is "free speech"?

This is an excellent point. A lot of times, people have these crazy images and expectations of how they want their partner to be, and this causes several, severe problems when they realize that someone isn't perfect. We also need to realize that they, too, are human. They have their own things to deal with and cannot be expected to be and act perfect all the time. The writer does not only say this in the best interest of the men, that women need to lighten up, that men have their own burdens; it is also, and arguably more so, in the best interest of women who will also get emotionally distraught if they maintain such ideologies.

this could be seen as evidence for his claim of "ruining our culture"

I feel like that is an overdramatic claim. I do not think that one measly song can ruin an entire culture. Sure, it can influence certain people's thoughts and beliefs, but most of it is only temporary. It affects ONE group of people; not nearly enough to generalize and say that our culture gets ruined

context is quite frequently something that makes or breaks a song (for a large portion of people anyway)

"I say"

The beginning of the "I say"

A strategic way of incorporating the "they say" aspect of the argument.

In a way, it could be argued that this is a violation of privacy, that people should not delve into others' thoughts. However, this is people in their truest form, showing vulnerability. This is what makes lyric special.

The quote has a simple meaning, but it makes us really think. We are born original. We have a whole future ahead, a clean slate. We can do whatever we want and establish ourselves in whatever way we deem fit, in a way makes us happy. Along the way, we get influenced; parents, relatives, friends, neighbors, even people we don’t like play a role in shaping our personalities, our identities. We die copies because we are so caught up, so determined to always be “happy" by doing what might make OTHERS happy but not necessarily ourselves. Along the way, we lose sight of our own true selves and, thus, slowly transition into becoming someone else. How many times do we say to ourselves “I can’t believe i just did that!” or “Wow that is so unlike me.” We know deep inside that that isn’t who we are, yet we are so heavily influenced by society that we slowly become strangers, even to ourselves.