Honesty is so important when dealing with presenting message to other people. You have to be straightforward and you have to get your point across. When it comes to persuading others it gets a little tricky but its easily done

A lot of companies do this and people do this to raise money. I honestly feel like this is happening more and more as we get older. I dont know if it has gotten worse ir if its just because im getting older but I feel like every time I go to a store, someone is asking me something along the lines of this.

I feel like this also has to relate to someone who is gullible. I feel like this isnt the case in every situation. Does anyone agree or disagree with this?

Some things in life actually require persuasion like the article states. Voting would not be a thing if persuasion didn't happen. There would either be no more competition or very little. Peoples views and ideas can also change how people respond in these situations.

This seems to be a popular statement as we get older. I feel like in college people are more into trying new things and also peer pressure is also high. Sometimes when you try new things it can be a good thing or a bad.

This makes sense as children's vocabulary and sense of mind is very limited. As they get older and start to learn more, their ideas and thoughts will change as they grow (as an individual).

As wanting to improve yourself, you have to stick with it and actually follow through. I think this is where a lot of people mess up with wanting to have goals and to make improvements. Does anyone agree with this??

As a human, we reflect on ourselves to direct us in future situations and to evaluate who we are and what we can become. It is so important to reflect back on things only if it is positive. The only reason a person should reflect on something negative, is if it can help a positive situation.

These three things are what makes humans, humans and it is to important to be about yourself when appropriate. I like how this passage has these statements condensed to these three simple sayings.

You could say this is more of a daily argument that happens between you and your own self. Those around us might think it sounds crazy to do this, but this is exactly what happens. It takes a while for yourself you actually calm yourself down.

They could not have said this any better. This is very true and this is really how it is with someone who has SAD. I feel as if the negative things are pointed out more in any situation than positive.

If you really think about this, this can occur when eating lunch in a public place, going into a store, or really going anywhere in public and you automatically start thinking about negative evaluation thoughts that others might be saying. Even knowing that they probably aren't even looking at you, you still have these thoughts.

I know some things are more common in women than men but I do agree with this as is about equal for men and women to experience social anxiety disorder. In some ways we think men are strong and should not express their feelings which is so wrong. Men can experience just about everything a woman can experience and not be any less of a person.

Treatment for this can be very expensive and if you are not able to afford then it probably wont be attempted. Another thing is that if you do not have the time to take out of the day to go, then its impossible to actually get the help and therapy a person needs.

Social Anxiety is something that I can relate to, as I have this on a daily basis. Before my dad passed away last year, I was trying to better myself and change to where I didn't care what they thought and to just be comfortable with myself. After he passed, I am back to square one if not worse than before. Not that I feel concerned about being humiliated but I do get anxious about being evaluated and rejected. People tend to make fun of those who say they have social anxiety problems, underestimate how bad it really is, or just thinks they are trying to get attention. This is where others are wrong and why people with social anxiety, struggle so much.

I found this article and I think it it well worth the read.

https://positivepsychologyprogram.com/social-comparison/

It basically says what this reading does but in a different way.

This is a good discussion question as everyone has different views on this. Sometimes you can compare yourself to maybe a parent that didnt go to college and you want to graduate college, or a neighbor with a brand new luxury car, or another student and grades/GPA.

I feel as if a lot pf people say that social comparison is a bad thing but in some cases, it is actually a good thing and should be done.

This can take place in daily life and even in school. Social Comparison happens all the time and some people aren't even aware that they are doing it. In my opinion, I feel like this could be a learned behavior. What are your thoughts?

This is what everyone struggles with at least once in their life. You can compare things like a car or a house, or you can compare looks. This all comes to status and to "beat" someone at something. Its like a high for a little while until something comes along and you dont even want what you worked for anymore. Some people are worse than others than this and this is also something that comes with age and maturity.

This is basically the meaning of life. People go to school to get a degree, get a good paying job and compete with others in the same field. Most people have their enemies or people around them to motivate them to do better. In most cases it is people that motivate others and in some cases, it is an object.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4579409/

This is a article that goes more in depth about social judgement. I honestly do not enjoy reading research article but I have always thought social judgement and behaviors were interesting. I really like this article and thought it would be good if anyone was also interested.

I struggle with making decisions and I feel like this is common in everyone. Do you think some people have a harder time at this?

I feel as I get older, my decision making get worse and I take forever just to make my mind up.

Even though this is a natural mind model, it is also learned. While you are growing up, you watch what goes on around you and take it in. You watched your parents go into a store, get what they needed, pay, and then leave. After you understand that then it is aa schema but before its a learned behavior.

I think your past experiences has a lot to do with what you think and why you are thinking it. Things that you have experienced you are familiar with and are able to make connections. With that being said, it might not always be right but you can have a good idea. For example: If you are walking up to two girls that are whispering (you have been in a situation in the past like this when someone was talking about you) your first thought is that they are talking about you.

Being able to recognize is one thing but to really know is another.

Animals are very smart like humans and are able to regulate themselves very quickly. I have heard of research studies that deal with this and also with positive reinforcement and it is very interesting.

This quote is basically the same thing as positive reinforcement If you tell a child something but then add something else that seems better, it will work. Rewards work most of the time depending on the demand and how hard it is. This method is used a lot with children with special needs but would work for any child.

Being able to self-regulate is so important and can occur naturally or when you do it. This is the way you can cheer yourself up when you're upset and also calm yourself. To understand how it happens deals with the biological side and understanding the processes.

There is a lot of talk about people letting their children wearing dresses, putting make up on. or playing with girly toys. In my opinion, let them do what they want to do. They will probably grow out of that stage. People don't worry about girls playing with boys toys or dressing up like a boy...???

I dont think anyone really thinks about it but sexuality isn't just about biology of the body or psychology and why people do what they do, its a whole lot more to that.

Most of these actions are kept behind closed doors in my opinion. You dont go around telling everyone about your life especially your sex life. Does anyone not agree on this?

I thought this was a very good article about sex education in schools and why it is so important. Maybe if more students were taught more in depth about this, then more girls would wait to have a child.

https://stayteen.org/sex-ed/article/why-sex-education-important

I highlighted this sentence because when I was in school we had a sex ed class but its really not that. Im not sure about other schools but all they really taught us was about periods, puberty, and not to have sex. They didnt teach about birth control, what its like to have a child, what it does to a woman to have birth or anything along those lines. We also had this class just in 6th grade and it lasted a few weeks. I feel like this course should start in 8th grade and last longer. Thats my opinion towards sex ed in public schools.

Like minikat100 said, I am also a religious person and it also shocks me of how many people are often to shut these kinds of conversations down. Sex is a part of life and without it, no one would be on this earth. I think sometimes people are embarrassed? Im not really sure why this is but it seems to always be like that.

In today's society, these topics are hushed but that is slowly changing. It has been worse but we are still not there yet. All of these things are science and what makes the world go round. As Allison stated above, we would not be able to survive long with these drives and types of people not here.

I feel like a lot of marriages and relationships lack this and honestly forgivenes is extremely important. This takes a lot to do but is the more mature thing and can change any situation. Clearly there are simple things to forgive and others are really tough but if it is manageable then it should definitely take place.

A way to help remember this is how negative things or thoughts destroy rather than make it better. So being destructive is negative actions that the listener does in the relationship. This also goes for friendships too!

It is important to talk with your partner and learn their likes and dislikes. When you know things they like, you can surprise them or it will evem just make them happy to know that you want to know and care about them and their happiness.

"We all need to take some time to "work" on our relationships" -- That is a line from an article I will attach but this is a good read if you are more interested in happiness in a relationship.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/emotional-fitness/201306/ten-actions-create-relationship-happiness

Having an intimate relationship helps you have that special bond together. When you have that type of bond, you grow and build with each other which is very important for ANY relationship. If you really love the other person then this type of relationship will be even better than one that love really isn't present.

I can see how this is true due to the fact that a lot of people aim for positive and fun experiences rather than negative. There are a few people (I think) that really just like the drama and purposefully do something negative. I have never understood this except its for attention but like the quote says, most people want happy and good times rather than bad.

This is an interesting way of talking about relationships and it makes perfect sense. In a relationship, you either put forth effort or "drain" the other person making it hard to be happy. If you put in positive thoughts and actions then the love builds up rather then if you break the relationship down by taking out the positive, the relationship will get worse.

Not all people are the same but typically when you are stressed you either want to be alone or want that reassurance of someone there. I think it depends on the stressor but the higher the stress i feel like the amount of love is decreasing. Your viewpoint changes and your focus and time is put on to something else. This is actually very interesting to me and I am going to paste an article that is also good to read.

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/11/10/love-stress-brain-threat-response_n_6132760.html

After reading this, it makes me think of a question. Lets say someone was born with a little bit less of oxytocin or does not produce as much as others. Because of emotions and hormones.. do you think they feel love a little differently or learn "how to love"? This is a different way of thinking but I am not sure what to think in regards to this. I am kind of torn between maybe learning to love after more of receiving or on the conditioning psychology side of it.

As for me not relating to being attached after birth, I did get attached to my mom. She had to wait 24 hours to see me and to be able to hold me. I think its those attachments in the first 24-48 hours are the most important. My birth mom actually did not want to hold me because she knew it would be hard for her to still give me up. I think people tend to overlook this part of the attachment part and having that connection right after birth.

When a baby is born there is going to be a very strong connection with the mother despite the way it is born. A mother is not typically identified as who gave birth to the baby. Babies do get that connection when the mom talks to the baby or hears her talking. It is crazy to see how strong some relationships are after birth. I have seen pictures on the internet with the newborn not letting go of the mother. Its so sweet and just magical at the same time!

There are different emotions when it comes to love but in my opinion I feel as if Oxytocin is responsible for love and relationships. I do think think there are different ways that the chemical reaction occurs in different parts of the brain to work together.

When talking about Love, it is perceived differently based on who you are talking to or about. There is the basis of what love means but then what is the building blocks for those emotions. Love like hate, is a strong word and it can definitely create its own reality. Being in love can make you feel different ways that you have never felt before. To me, that itself is a new reality.

Knowing someones likes and dislikes is very important when finding someone to spend the rest of your life with. If there isn't much in common then its going to be very challenging in the future. Dating sites help with this by letting you choose some things to help you match with someone. This is a very smart idea and can help out a lot of people and save some time!

To get a little personal- I am struggling with this. My parents were married for 32 years and back in December, my dad took his own life. As for right now, I have made the decision to never get married and I think I am thinking that way due to the situation I have been in. People don't understand why I think like that but they have also not walked in my shoes to see why that is. It definitely is not easy to work on or change but it should be something to be thinking about or trying to work on.

Children typically take after what they either see or are taught. Especially when they are younger and aren't afraid to say anything is when you see how things really are. I have heard that if you had a "broken"family you will either follow in those footsteps or want to break the chain and make sure that doesn't happen to you with your family.

I personally do not think online dating is bad but I would not do it. I do know people that have met, started dating, and are either married or getting married and that is great. You have to just be extremely careful and be aware of what you are doing. You never know who the other person is and watch out for sketchy things. The internet is definitely a game changer for a lot of people!

I think break ups hurt so bad is because you go from talking to someone for a period of time, hang out with them, and then one day it just all stops. There could be many different reasons behind why a break up occurs. Not all relationships end because of cheating. People are quick to assume that but some other reasons are distance, change of feelings, one needs to focus on themselves before putting time and effort into someone else... etc.

Everyone has a different perspective on love and what it really means. What love might mean to you wont be the same way someone else says it means to them. In my opinion, in this generation, the word Love is changing day by day. I do not think all love is the same and there are different types. There is an article I actually thought about while reading this passage, about does love really exist. It really opened my eyes on the topic about love.

https://www.theodysseyonline.com/does-love-actually-exist

I agree with Niyas. If you like someone, that will make you want to keep spending time with them. If you start to like someone after spending a lot of time together, this means that there will more than likely be a connection but there has to be communication. In some cases, you can actually get tired of each other so taking breaks are a must.

When you are with someone for over a long period of time, you develop feelings wether its best friend feelings or more than friends. You become that person and start copying words, ways, and actions because you adapt to what is around you. They say opposites attract but the longer you are with them, you become them, slowly. This is also where they get "you become one"- in marriage.

People typically are attracted to others based on their background and how their parent or parents raised them. This includes race, personal qualities, and overall looks. Unfortunately Racism is a huge part of this and race. Here is a good article in regards to racism and attraction: https://studybreaks.com/culture/racist-dating-preferences/

I can see how this is true but you also see this on tv and in movies. Typically men who have a deep or deeper voice tend to be considered "sexy" and women that have a higher pitched voice are seen as "sexy" also. Some people actually say that they are attracted to voices and say that if they don't like the other persons voice then that means they cant be attracted to them. In my opinion, I feel like a women with a really high pitched voice is sometimes annoying. Depending on how high it is.

I feel like this is common sense but its also based on opinions. People have different tastes in people as to who they are attracted to. If someone think a person is attractive and I don't think so, then who is right? What is the true definition of attractive if everyone sees different? This is a hard concept to explain and harder to figure out. There are many things to be attracted to on and within a person.

Basically the halo effect is when our overall impression of a person influences how we feel and think about his or her character. I believe this to be true and it happens even when you aren't aware its happening. When looking for or seeing someone attractive, your pupils dilate. Something that I have always heard was that studies show that we are more attracted to people who look similar to us. I feel like this is true since there are studies behind it but I also feel like this is not the case, every time. Does anyone else agree?

As I stated earlier, I am adopted and I can honestly say, I have no idea where I would be without my family. My mom was not able to have kids so she and my dad decided to adopt. Adoption is a great thing and has helped many different children of all different ages. When you say adoption, people typically just think about the child's new family or the child themselves. I guess being adopted I tend to think about the birth family also. After meeting some of my birth family last year, I quickly came to the realization of how hard it is for a woman to give her child up for adoption. Until she either reached out to me or I reached out to her, she had to spend all of that time wondering if I was okay, was I being taken care of, and a whole lot more. This really opened my eyes into thinking more into all of the decisions that are made in the entire process. My adoption was closed so my parents never met my birth parents but my brothers was open so we did meet them. They were able to watch him grow up through pictures on social media.

This question is one of those questions that makes me heated. I get that way because whenever I am asked this, i get a lecture. No, I do not want kids. I think that kids are great, there are kids that need a home, and I know that people will say kids will change your life. That is all great but I do not want kids no matter what kind of opinion they have. I am going to attach an article that describes my thoughts exactly in regards to ever having children.

https://www.theodysseyonline.com/no-kids-for-me

I believe in equal sharing within the household. I know people that would not agree to it and that is totally okay. Everyone's opinions about this is going to be based off how they grew up and/or what they saw and either believed to be right or not right.

I have always thought of the man to be the head of the household but the wife also needs to put in her part. That is somewhat the traditional way the only difference being that the woman also works instead of being a stay at home mom. As time changes, this is not the case anymore. You see on the news, tv, in your community, and all around you, how families are being broken up, there is a single parent, or a parent dies. This breaks the tradition and completely changes but it all depends on the situation.

I think that pets can be considered family. There is a quote that I thought of when I read this and it is "If you cant love a pet like a family member don't get one.... Because they only know how to look at you as a pack member and to them, that is Family." I love that quote and agree with it. I have had a dog since I was born, so I am really passionate about having pets.

Family is a very strong word and can be explained in many different ways. I was actually adopted at birth and can say that for me, family has two different meanings. I actually met my birth mom, brother, and sister last year but I had never reached out to them until then. Family means to have people around you that support you, comfort you, help you in your darkest moments, and are with you in your brightest days. There is a lot of responsibility and respect that is between a family and you should grow as one. You can consider friends as a family also. This is important if they have been through what you and your family have also experienced. The word family has changed over the last decade in my opinion.