Skill Focused committing harmful action against another in response to grievance. Shows a darker side of so called "love" and how it is displayed in heterosexual relationships.

General Annotation #5 Regarding my idea of romantic love I always assumed both parties in a relationship always want to be gentle and adoring towards the other. I had never thought that someone could desire to be violent towards another person. Especially when they are truly in love.

General Annotation #4 I think that this text differs a lot by shedding light on the violent urges that can be found in relationships, which wasn't really talked about in the other articles.

General Annotation #3 I think Ward would describe love as problematic, but when love is successful I think she would describe it as harmonious. By harmonious I mean that both parties of the relationship learn to repress their violent actions and tend to show them in a more gentle way.

General Annotation #2 The violence that is shown in the heterosexual love reminds me of Pinto's text where she talks about subversive love and how it has the power to overthrow peoples' emotions and lives where she says, "...love as a radical or subversive emotion with the potential to transform society."

General Annotation #1 Reminds me of a criminal justice class I took in high school, and we were shown information that white men were the majority towards violence of white women.

I think the purpose of the text is to persuade readers into thinking that EFT is the best way of counseling couples

saying that love is in our instincts not something that we grew to know

strange that she finally figured out a solution to her problem but didn't really have an understanding of it

about the author and her background

I think this is the author's opinion and I totally agree. What love is for me could be the complete opposite for someone else.

Personally, I don't think romantic love is an emotion. I definitely think love is a thing that is made up of a bunch of emotions, but I don't think it is one in itself. When I think of an emotion I think of something that comes and goes, you can be happy for 10 minutes and then angry the next. But love is something that tends to stick around for a long time, if not forever.

As I do think romantic love can lead to problems in someones life, I don't think it is "deeply problematic". Of course everyone goes through heartbreaks which can really effect a person, but you live and learn from past relationships, and make improvements for your future ones. I think love can be beneficial to people. Whether thats learning lessons, or gaining a person in your life that can change it for the better.

In many cases, romantic love does involve sexual desire but I don't think that is the case for everyone. For example there are people who identify as asexual. This is when someone doesn't have sexual feelings towards anyone. People who are asexual can still have romantic feelings towards others. But sexuality is also a spectrum so it is not so cookie cutter.

I think romantic love can be different for everyone. But when I first think about it I think of wanting to be with someone 24/7 and make their lives a brighter place. Sometimes this can lead to intimacy but not always depending on each relationship.