s. When someone does something for us orgives us something, we feel obligated to return the favor in kind. It triggers one of the mostpowerful of social norms, the reciprocity rule, whereby we feel compelled to repay, in equitablevalue, what another person has given to us
I do this a lot...I feel like a deed has gone undone if i don't return the favor of the person that has helped me...It drives me crazy if i don't do something for them.
In fact, when the phrase "a good cause"
I have noticed that everyone always use the phrase " a good cause" whether it be someone selling something outside of walmart or other places....when we ask what the donation may be for they always say "Well its for a good cause" and they never really say what the cause is for...they just use this phrase to persuade you to donate.
To be an agent is to act with direction and purpose, to move forward into the future in pursuitof self-chosen and valued goals.
I actually like this statement. Everyone should be this type of individual. Make/set goals for yourself to do better in life and brighten your future.
Evolution has prepared us to care deeply aboutsocial acceptance and social status, for those unfortunate individuals who do not get alongwell in social groups or who fail to attain a requisite status among their peers have typically
This is what is happening in today's society. It is actually sad because our younger generation are basically losing themselves because they are too busy trying to keep up with the hottest trends and trying to fit in with their peers.
we often try to manage,discipline, refine, improve, or develop theself.
I think we do this because, most of the time our surroundings change, and some times our morals change as well. So we try to change accordingly.
laughter, because . . .”People with SAD are more likely to complete the sentence with a statement suggesting thatthere is something wrong with their behavior or appearance (e.g., “they thought I lookedridiculous”) as opposed to a neutral explanation (e.g., “one of them made a joke”). The problemis that when you assume people are attacking you, you feel more self-conscious and are lesslikely to stay in a situation and to interact with that group of people or others in the future
This actually happened to me last week,I walked past this group of friends and they began to laugh....I automatically assumed the worst..I assumed that they were laughing at me/ at something i was wearing. I didn't think they were laughing at something someone said.
Why might socially anxious people dread being praised?
Socially anxious people dread being praised because they become the center of attention, which they hate. Then people began to talk about them and they do not know if the things that are being said is positive or negative.
People with excessive socialanxiety are likely to view themselves as having more flaws or deficits, compared to those whorarely feel social anxiety
This goes back to the annotation i made previously...People are a lot harder on their selves than the "average" person would be when it comes to physical appearance and other things. They tend to do the Upward and downward comparison within themselves and also with other people as well.
clients often do not know enough about social fears to discussthem with their doctors.
This is true! If we do not know much about an issue, we do not go to the doctor to get the proper diagnosis; we look WebMD, Google and other internet sources to self diagnose ourselves.
Unfortunately, only a small proportion of people with socialanxiety disorder actually seek treatment.
I find this to be true with any type of disorder....For some reason we don't like to seek treatment/help when we know we need it the most. I think our egos play a huge role in this.
or cancer, for instance, might feel better about his own side effects if he learns that anacquaintance suffered worse side effects from the same treatment.
This statement alone hit home for me. Being a cancer survivor myself, I can honestly say that i have done this. Doing all of the chemotherapy that i had to do and seeing that the person, in the room, in the bed next to mine taking a higher dosage of chemotherapy than i, i became extremely grateful, that i had different side effects than they did.
On one hand, upward comparisons on relevant dimensions canthreaten our self-evaluation and jeopardize self-esteem
Comparing yourself to someone else who isnt like you has its pros and cons. It can be a good thing because maybe you are looking for ways to better your life in a certain way to help boost your self esteem. It can be a bad thing, because, it can ruin ones self-esteem because they will think that they aren't good enough or cant amount to anything.
to whom do people compare themselves
Everyone has a certain "class" of people that they compare their selves too. It could be a celebrity, someone you know personally such as a friend you grew up with, or a classmate.
social comparison theory. At the core of his theory is the idea that people come to know aboutthemselves—their own abilities, successes, and personality—by comparing themselves withothers.
I believe this statement is true. We have to have something or someone to compare to make us "better" than what we are. If we try to do something that is outside of our comfort zones, it allows us to know what we are capable to do.
social comparison. Occurring frequently in our lives,social comparison shapes our perceptions, memory, and behavior—even regarding the mosttrivial of issues.
Social comparison is something we sadly see everyday. I think that when it comes to elementary-high school kids, it effects them more than adults because they are constantly what they already have to what someone else has. As soon as they see someone or something better than what they have, they automatically think that they have to have it.
The chameleoneffect—where individuals nonconsciouslymimic the postures, mannerisms, facial expressions, and other behaviors of their interactionpartners—is an example of how people may engage in certain behaviors without consciousintention or awareness
I just find this effect so weird and funny. The chameleon effect is always shown in close relationships. One day your spouse or friend may be doing something and you may find it weird but then later on, you find yourself doing the exact same thing. The chameleon effect can also be a bad thing also especially when you have small children and they are around people who have bad habits.
Hotcognition refers to the mental processes that are influenced by desires and feelings.
You can see this happen in the "talking stage" of most relationships. Most people do things based on the feelings they have towards that person but often times that is based on lust and not how they actually feel towards the individual.
knowledge, abilities, and future prospects, our perceptions are often overly positive, and wedisplay overconfidence in their accuracy and potential
Everyone has done this sadly....ESPECIALLY when it comes to a test of some sort. I know I have done plenty of times.Why do we tend to be overly confident in things when in the end it actually ends up hurting us?
Whenever we face a decision, we predict our future behaviors or feelings in order to choosethe best course of action
I agree with this statement. This makes me think of procrastination. When we procrastinate things that we know we need to get done, our mind gets flooded with what-ifs and then we make up a solution to that question. Our overall decision making, should be, not to procrastinate at all and to just get things done. Decision making will always predict our future whether the decision is good or bad.
Not only can our pastexperiences, expectations, motivations, and moods impact our reasoning, but many of ourdecisions and behaviors are driven by unconscious processes and implicit attitudes we areunaware of having.
Our past experience will always impact any and everything that we do. We often quote the saying, "Learn from your mistakes" so i think that this has a lot to do with our decision making and behaviors.
r proposed that the reason for this comparison to standards is thatit enables people to regulate themselves, such as by changing things that do not measure upto their standards.
This is what is done in society today. We constantly ask ourselves if we are living up to today's society standards. We should never have to question that.
Many situations in life demand similar delays for best results. Going to college to get aneducation often means living in poverty and debt rather than getting a job to earn moneyright away. But in the long run, the college degree increases your lifetime income by hundredsof thousands of dollars.
I don't necessarily agree with that statement as far as getting a college education mean living in poverty. That is just a ridiculous statement. Many of us are wealthy and are in college.
Understanding and practicingempathic consent requires sexual literacy and an ability to effectively communicate desiresand limits, as well as to respect others’ parameters.
Communication is always important within a relationship; especially when it comes to sex. Always express the things you like/ comfortable with to avoid confrontation with your spouse. Always respect the individual if they verbally express that, they find certain sexual acts to be uncomfortable. Do not force them to do anything they are not comfortable with....Remember Title IX!!!
Discussing likes, dislikes, and limitsprior to sexual exploration reduces the likelihood of miscommunication and misjudgingnonverbal cues.
Discussing what one likes and dislikes sexual wise in a relationship is a MUST. It is very important because you do not want to be put in a position where you are doing something that you do not like and just because it was "in the heat of the moment" you do it anyway.But once it is time for sex again and your spouse wants to do it again and you turn it down and they say "well you didn't have a problem with it the last time"....so discussing the likes and dislikes is a must to avoid awkward situations.
What is normal?
This a question NO ONE seems to know the answer too. We do not know what normal is. What we think is normal, society deems it to be not normal but it is normal in our book. What we consider normal one day, is not normal the next day. So is being not normal, normal?
For example, Europeanand American cultures today associate pink with femininity and blue with masculinity
Why do we have to associate color with a specific gender? My favorite color is blue, does that mean i am more masculine than the "average" female who likes the color pink? This reminds me of when i attend baby showers. If there is anything blue in the room everyone automatically thinks the baby is a boy or if the color is pink, the baby is a girl. I happen to know a male whose favorite color is purple, does that mean he is feminine?
Later in life, as adults, we oftenconform to these norms by behaving in gender-specific ways: as men, we build houses; aswomen, we bake cookies
This statement shows you how everything a long time ago was based on the gender you were. Nowadays, some men have long hair and some women have short hair. Some men are stay at home dads(which you don't find to often), while women are out in the field working and some are even building houses and working on railroad tracks or just doing "manly" jobs.
if you want to build a goodrelationship with a partner or with yourfriends, it is crucial to make daily positivedeposits in your relationship bankaccounts
It is always a good thing to continue to grow your bond stronger with someone that you truly care about. With that bond being stronger, you feel like there is nothing you can keep from that person because of your trust being so strong
Some suggest that the best way to spelllove is T-I-M-
I can honestly say that TIME in a relationship is very important. If one doesn't make time for the other, the relationship isn't going to last very long because you never see each other. I think it is important that in a relationship, there should be a certain day/days of the week that the two of you go out and just be in each others presence.
If they ignore the good news, change the subject, devalue the good news, orrefocus the good news to be about themselves, they may make a withdrawal from the account
This goes back to the annotation that i made above. People that constantly do that, they want to see you do good but NEVER better than them. It will always be a never ending competition.
when the listener points out somethingnegative about what is said, it is called active-destructive responding
If you are telling someone positive and the only thing they can point out is the negative, you may as well be done with them all together because they suppose to support you no matter. I've noticed that people who do this don't want you to do better than them.
When we disclose certain private things about ourselves, we increase the potential intimacythat we can have with another person, however, we also make ourselves vulnerable to gettinghurt by the other person.
To disclose such private information with another person is simply built on trust. We have to trust that individual to never speak on what one has said even if things between the two goes completely wrong. I have seen many times where someone has told someone something and then the two end up getting into an argument and what one individual told the other was used against them. So you have to be extremely careful when disclosing such private and intimate details to someone no matter hows close you may be to them because, things happen.
Given that 60% to 80% of the time, people disclose their most positive daily experiences withtheir partner
I think that this overall percentage is a good percentage. We are more open to talk about things that are positive and that excites us than we are if we were to talk about something that is negative. Talking about things that are positive that has happened in our life with our partners or with anyone for that matter just makes the day even more positive.
withdrawals are more salient and moreimpactful.
I agree with this little statement made here. We do seem to dwell on and remember anything NEGATIVE that happens to us. I honestly don't know why that is. Maybe because, we have to learn from the mistakes that has caused this negative thing to happen.
In Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, Covey (1989) compared human relationships to actualbank accounts—suggesting that every day we make deposits or withdrawals from ourrelationship accounts with each person in our lives
I have never thought about comparing human relationships to a bank account but it somehow makes complete sense. A compliment a day or simply doing something that nice is like a deposit and adds more excitement or what have you, to the relationship, if you do the opposite, it has negative effects and the person might withdraw from the relationship completely then you end up in.....overdraft. I definitely understand the correlation here.
The absence of love in early lifecan be detrimental to mentaland physical health
I agree that it can be detrimental because if one doesn't receive the love that they deserve in their household, they look for love in "all the wrong places", as cliche` as it may sound , it's true. Then the individual develops trust issues and that is just the beginning.
The biology of fatherhood is less well-studied than motherhood is.
As i was reading this, it did come across my mind that we do not talk about fathers as much as we should, which is a little confusing to me. We celebrate Mother's day, basically all month long but when Father's day comes around, our fathers receive little to no recognition at all. Why is that? I mean after all without the help of the father we wouldn't be here.
Prior to mating, prairie voles aregenerally social, even toward strangers. However, within a day or so of mating, they begin toshow high levels of aggression toward intruders (Carter, DeVries, & Getz, 1995), possiblyserving to protect or guard a mate, family, or territory. This mating-induced aggression isespecially obvious in males
We see this today in not only males but females as well. I honestly think in today's society, we see this type of behavior more in females than male. I believe this because, we are made to protect any and everything that "belongs" to us especially when it comes to our offspring. There is this saying that I have heard that says "You have a divine animal right to protect that of your offspring"; which is absolutely true.
Emotional bonds can form during periods of extreme duress, especially when the survival ofone individual depends on the presence and support of another.
Everyone has been through this a time or two. I know for me, depending how stressed i am, i personally want to be alone. If i feel like I am in desperate need of someone to talk too, and i think it would relieve my stress, i would call a friend to be my support.
Human mothers also form a strong and lasting bondwith their newborns immediately after birth, in a time period that is essential for thenourishment and survival of the baby.
I agree with this statement. I have heard of the hospitals now doing the skin to skin contact immediately after birth more often than they use too. This allows the baby to bond with their mom more. I do find that the skin to skin contact is really important.
marriage market—the process by which potential matescompare assets and liabilities of available prospects and choose the best option
Marriage Market is actually a great way to describe what we do in society today. For example, we go to the grocery and we compare prices on the same items, or we compare the quality in two or more of the same things. When we want to find our "potential" mate, we do the exact same thing. We line them up and decide what we like, what we don't like, what we want to keep and what we don't want to keep. So, marriage market, fits perfectly.
Anxious-resistant adults worry that others don’t love them, and they oftenbecome frustrated or angry when their needs go unmet
By reading this definition , I do believe this has described one of my friends. She basically has a whole temper tantrum like a 2 year old would do when they can't get their way. I don't know what her exact reason for her being like this would be though. It's basically her way or no way.
In a poll, 49%of all American adults reported that either themselves or someone they knew had dated aperson they met online
49% is a lot of people! Sadly, we see this happen everyday. People do easily fall in love with people they meet online. I on the other hand, I automatically think "Yeah this is definitely a catfish"! It is actually sad that we as humans have to turn to the internet to "find love" when we can't seem to find it by going out or through mutual friends. Honestly. we turn to the internet for all of our problems that we can't solve on our own.
elements involved in intimacy (caring,closeness, and emotional support) are generally found in all types of close relationships
People who don't fully understand the definition of intimacy, automatically think it means SEX. You can be intimate with someone without even having sex at all. To be intimate with someone simply means being there for them when they need you the most/ be their support system. Communication is one of the most important ways to show intimacy.
Another way to think of it isthat relationships are built on give and take; if one side is not reciprocating, then therelationship is doomed.
This happens in every relationship. Someone's feelings are ALWAYS deeper than the other person. That doesn't always mean that they don't feel the same way that you do towards them. They may just be more cautious with the way they express things or their feelings/emotions in general.
onsequently researchsuggests that we like what is familiar.
We as humans are more comfortable doing things that are more familiar to us. We do not like stepping out of our comfort zones because we view that as not being "normal". What is "NORMAL"? "Is there a such thing as "normal"?
ust being around someone or being repeatedlyexposed to them increases the likelihood that we will be attracted to them
I have witnessed this first hand. Not only have i experienced this, but I notice this is what happens a lot with my best friend. At first she isn't attracted to them but overtime she ends up being attracted to them just because they hang out more. I believe everyone has been in this type of predicament before.
pretty is as pretty does.” Research has shown that students aremore likely to judge an instructor’s physical appearance as appealing when his behavior iswarm and friendly than when it is cold and distant (Nisbett & Wilson, 1977), and people ratea woman as more physically attractive when they have a favorable description of herpersonality
I agree with this statement because I do it. If the instructor comes off as warm and friendly, I'm more likely to open up and talk to you more whether you are male or female. However, if you are rude and have a nasty disposition about you, then i wont have anything to do with you. Personality goes a long way.
More attractive people are more popular with their peers, and this isshown even in early childhood
I think we have ALL witnessed this in some form another. This has been going on for so long it is just ridiculous. I don't know why we always gravitate towards people that are more attractive to hang around and be friends with when we are in school. No matter what age we are, this always happen. I think we are drawn their "auras" and it sucks us into it.
Also, attractiveness in men is positively related to the number of short-term, but notlong-term, sexual partners, whereas the reverse is true for women
I 100% agree with this statement. You can always walk up to an"attractive" male and ask them their relationship status or how long was their longest relationship, i guarantee they will say between 3-5 months. It seems like they are always looking for another spouse while they are in that relationship. They never really have time to be with themselves because, they are "attractive" and there is always someone who is interested in them.
Attractiveness is an asse
Attractiveness is definitely an asset that can either benefit you or hurt you in the long run. If you want to get ahead in the "business world", being attractive will certainly help you in getting the things you want and/ or the position you want. Attractiveness can also be a "curse" as well. By being attractive, you will always be looking for handouts because you are so use to people giving you things, you do not know how to do things on your own.
Theattractiveness of peoples’ faces, as well as their bodies and voices, not only influences ourchoice of romantic partners, but also our impressions of people’s traits and important socialoutcomes in areas that have nothing to do with romance
Most people find other individuals attractive by looking at the individuals face and physical shape instead of focusing on the person's "personality" This kind of goes back to the saying mentioned above this "Don't judge a book by its cover". You can be the most "beautiful" person in the world but if your personality is dull/boring/bland, to me, you are considered unattractive. Personality goes a lot further than attractiveness.
close friendshipscan protect our mental and physical healthwhen times get tough.
I really agree with this statement. Having that close friendship with someone allows the person that is having a difficult time in life, the option to express whatever they have on their mind without the fear of being judged. Being there for that friend when they need you means a lot because that friend may be at their breaking point and is contemplating suicide.By you simply talking to them and asking them how their day is going might change their mind.
Adoption has long historical roots (it is evenmentioned in the Bible) and involves taking in and raising someone else’s child legally as one’sown
Adoption has hit my family from both sides meaning that, a family member has given their child up for adoption and someone has adopted that said child. My little sister is adopted, she is actually my cousin. Even though most people, only turn to adoption for the reasons of infertility, others turn to the adoption option simply because, they do not want to go through pregnancy again but, they really want another child. In my parents case, I believe it was a mixture of my m om wanting another child and she saw a child in need of a good home and stable environment..
Another traditionalform of family is the joint family, in which three or more generations of blood relatives livein a single household or compound.
There are some instances in today's society that, there are more than one generation living under one roof. The reason for that may vary depending upon who you ask. For example. the old TV show "The Waltons" is the perfect example of a joint family. You have the grandparents, their children, and their grandchildren under one roof. Some people may find this type of living has beneficial so that the children can view the family as one unit.