I realized that my kid

Barnard College

Elizabeth AlsopBrooklyn

as happened to my son

. Parents are the customers of these universities, and when these institutions fail to provide a good product and great customer service, they should be called out and held to account.

Here are a few:

I worry about the ones who have been taught to be helpless.

the common response from dads is, “Well, then you need to hire more instructors.”

That’s probably O.K. I don’t think there’s much to be gained from assigning negative labels to moms and dads who need a bit of guidance on how to take a step back as their sons and daughters transition into adulthood.

Though 61 percent of American adults with children ages 18-29 say parents are doing too much for their young adult offspring, just 28 percent say they themselves are doing too much.

I thought of the deaf people who had been mistreated or killed by police. I thought about Robert Kim, a deaf man who was beaten and tasered in 2012 by a police officer in a St. Louis suburb; and Daniel Kevin Harris, who was shot and killed in 2016 by a North Carolina state trooper; and two Oklahoma men, Pearl Pearson, who was badly beaten by police officers in 2014, and Magdiel Sanchez, who was shot and killed by police in front of his home in Oklahoma City in 2017.

I knew that some musical artists had refused opportunities to perform at the game last year in support of Colin Kaepernick. I wondered whether I should do the same.

Demi Lovato, top, and Christine Sun Kim performing at the Super Bowl in Miami Gardens, Fla.Credit...

he’s not gay enough,

o what extent am I defined by my sexual orientation or gender identity? What does and doesn’t it tell you about me?

In other words, we’ve been learning to write in ways that communicate our tone of voice, not just our mastery of rules.

remove the author as much as possible from the text

“That’s very ~on brand~” and “y.i.k.e.s.” or subtler ones like “that’s a Bold choice” and “Wowwwww,”