Care less, eyes, lips, and hands to miss.
John Donne is saying that the love between his wife, Anna, and himself is so strong that they do not have to worry about missing physical aspects of each other. I believe he is saying that their love goes beyond that.
They gave me a drug that slowed the healing of wounds.
I feel like Rich is trying to say that writing poetry about feminist ideas acts as a drug for her. It acts as a drug because it temporarily takes away or decreases her pain; however, the pain always comes pack after writing. I am not fully certain what the pain she is referring to is.
I have to learn alone
I am not the best at interpreting poetry; however, I believe Rich is referencing a greater struggle for women. Women often have to fend for themselves and "learn" things that society does not deem fit for them.
anger
The usage of the word "anger" reminds me of the connection to the feminist rage and second wave feminism that Audre Lorde was a part of.