In this paper I draw on my life story as a teacher educator and the mother of a daughter with disabilities to trouble the identity that positions and labels her as, first and foremost in U.S. school settings, a "child with special needs." Drawing on a brief snippet from our profoundly interrelated lives (Hillyer, 1993), I argue that educators must reconsider the positioning of children who differ from the "norm," and stop labeling, and hence limiting, children. I end with recommendations for personal, educational, and societal policies and practices that would be less painful and limiting, and more inclusive, supportive, and ultimately democratic.
The author challenges the idea that a child’s primary identity in school should be their label, such as “child with special needs.” This point is powerful because it shows how labels, even when intended to provide support, can end up defining and restricting a child’s possibilities. By sharing her own experience as both a teacher educator and a mother, the author demonstrates how deeply personal and interconnected these issues are. Her argument suggests that labeling students based on their differences reinforces narrow expectations and prevents teachers from seeing their full potential. The passage pushes educators to rethink how institutional language shapes children’s identities and to create environments that focus on inclusion rather than categorization.