"People tend to seek out partners at their own self-esteem level, provided they don’t have strong emotional needs or role behaviors in other areas, and psychological vulnerability is not an issue at the time."

I agree that people tend to look for partners with similar levels of self-esteem which makes people feel better about themselves as compared to when they have a partner with much high self-esteem which would make them feel less than.

"Just as need can masquerade as love, so can duty or guilt."

This definitely reminds me of companionate love, where there is no passion but simply commitment and intimacy where one feels obliged to stay with the other which can be out of duty or guilt.

"For the adolescent or young lover, romantic love tends to be identified solely with sexual attraction or passion because of the intense physiological arousal and sexual longing that are experienced, especially the first time around."

I think it's interesting to think about how one's definition of love changes over their lifetime due to their experiences and how their own thought processes change.

“Love. I would ban the word from the vocabulary. Such imprecision. Love, which love, what love? Sentiment, fantasy, longing, lust? Obsession, devouring need? . . . Love is a toy, a token, a scented handkerchief.”

I feel like this highlights how complicated love really is and how there are endless perspectives on what love really is or what is actually considered "love."