This line hit me so hard. They used black women but won't even let black women have access to what they were used for. It's really horrible and its not surprising that black women don't trust the healthcare system since there's still some really racist people in this world who would still be willing to do some pretty horrible things or just not properly treat black women.

consent still isn't consent if you lie about it or exclude details

Its likely they didn't bother to think of African American's consent when operating on them because they didn't even seem to think of them as human, they literally put them on the same level as garbage, which you wouldn't ask a piece of garbage or an inanimate object for its consent. It's really messed up how people thought that this was okay, and to do this to their dead bodies even.

This reminds me of what we just talked about in class about how men don't realize they have been raped because of this wrongful notion that men are supposed to enjoy sex all the time no matter what, that they want sex all time, and that it was cool that he didn't even have to try. The way that people approach this made it so the person in this story said he felt weak for not enjoying it and didn't even consider it to be rape until someone told him it actually was.

Because of this stigma that men can't be raped, I'm not surprised to read that it is under reported. The same goes with women on women; I feel like part of this could be homophobia, since some people don't even accept that two people of the same gender can have sex they really aren't going to believe someone when they say they've been raped.

I agree with this so much! I already said this in a previous annotation but the assumption that only women get raped just makes it so much harder than it already is for victims to get help and speak up. I've witnessed that in men's cases they were told they were "supposed to enjoy it" and other men would say things like "How could you have not wanted to have sex?" or something to that effect, so I wish more people would tell men that it's not their fault if it happened and they weren't "supposed to like it."

The stereotypical view of rape is that it is a man who rapes a woman, but this ignores any cases of rape that can happen between two men, two women, or a woman raping a man. It makes it a lot harder than it already is for rape victims to speak up.

I think this is a lot more important than most people think. I was told a lot by my parents when I was younger that I was "too young to date"and shut down the conversation, so I went my entire middle school years and even high school years not telling them about any dates I went on, crushes I had, or anything. I think this can be problematic for kids because whether adults want to face it or not, their kids will start to develop romantic feelings for people and by not talking about it, it can put kids in dangerous situations as they have nobody to guide them through it.

I never thought about this before but this is so true. I've seen a lot of adults, both when I was a child and now, scold children for crying or acting out, and that can be a subtle teacher that their emotions don't mattter or shouldn't be expressed, which can make it harder for a person to say no or express their discomfort if they went their whole life being told expressing their feelings was wrong.

Perosnally I think consent isn't always taught that early for everyone; it can be, but one thing I noticed people do to kids is force them or encourage them to hug eachother even if they don't want to because they think it'll be nice or teach them to like it, and I think that can be a really subtle teacher that them saying no doesn't mean no which I think is an issue. I witnessed a lot of stuff like that growing up so I actually think consent wasn't taught or a lot, even in small instances, at least in my own experiences.

It's honestly highly likely that someone can be both homosexual or bisexual and also have a disability of some kind, and they still deserve to have proper sex education and a right to experiencing relationships with other people, disabled or not.

I feel as though people forget that people with intellectual disabilities are human too and have feelings, and they deserve to have proper sex education as much as abled people do.

I get what this is trying to say although I would like to argue that asexual people do exist so I wouldn't really say it's a "basic need" in the way that food and water is.

i think this is a good point though because someone can say yes but not actually mean it and just say it because they felt pressured, but if you look to see if they're actually enthusiastic about their answer and what you're doing you'll have a better idea on whether your partner is actually comfortable or not.

i see this as a warning sign that if people aren't going to respect your no's and boundaries outside the bedroom, then they aren't going to respect them during.

to me signing a contract seems a little iffy because she may sign it today and be fine with what's happening today. but tomorrow always has the potential to be a different story and she may not want to consent to that anymore, but it's "too late" because she signed a contract.

I think that if someone makes a mistake and accidentally does something the other person dislikes, it okay ONLY if you apologize after and try to correct your mistake. I feel like if you don't apologize after actively doing something the other person doesn't like, it crosses a line into sexual assault/harassment.

This made me think back to a previous reading about bodily integrity, and how people viewed women's nudes being leaked as something that was shameful, and they were wrong for ever taking those photos. I think by extension, that can apply to sexting, because society sees the act of a woman taking these photos and sexting them to a partner as bad, so people form a negative connotation with sexting as a whole.

I think that depending on what websites you look at, sex advice can be sexist, or have gender stereotypes, but if you look at other websites they can have good advice like tips about consent and good sex tips. I think that it depends on who and where you're getting it from and I think it's up to the individual to take in the information and decide for themselves what they think is right and what they are comfortable with.

In a lot of pornography or sex related things, I've noticed that they tend to skip over consent completely because it "looks better that way", so what Teen Vogue is doing is really smart.

I think that mainstream pornography can set a really bad example for what sex is supposed to look like, so I really like the idea of trying to make other kinds of sex more socially acceptable to safely teach people, and different groups of people.

personally any knowledge I do have about sex has come from the internet but never from willingly searching it up, I just sort of came across it. I've never had "the talk" with my parents. It makes me wonder how much of what I actually know is correct, and I also wonder how many other people are in my same place. I think it would be a lot safer for everyone, especially teenagers, if they had someone to talk to about sex, like a parent, they would be getting better and safer information.

This makes it seem like men have more ownership over a women's body than the woman has, which is probably a contributing favor to why people shame women for expressing their own sexuality, such as taking nude photos.

I think this is definitely a main reason why women's nudes get leaked more than men's. Women are actively shamed for expressing sexuality, while men are more encouraged. Women's nudes get leaked because to whoever is spreading them, it's supposed to be a shameful thing; that the blame should be on the woman who took the nudes and not on the person who spreads the nudes.

The people passing these photos around didn't have her consent. Nobody has ownership over Lawrence's own body except her, and passing around things you don't own like that and wasn't consented to should really be illegal universally.

Instilling things like dress codes that blame girls for the unwanted attention they receive from boys teaches kids at a young age that they should victim blame; that it's the girls fault for dressing "provocatively" and that boys "just can't help it". I think this is one of the things that has created/ contributes to rape culture in our society.

I think that the beauty standards that are placed on women do focus so much on women's body it kinda gets to the point where women's bodies are being over sexualized. Dieting and exercise culture puts such an emphasis on the look of a woman's body and feels like that's more of it's purpose than health. This obsession with the looks of a woman's body can lead to their body being constantly over sexualized, which would drive women to think that they need to engage in sexual activity even if they don't necessarily want to.

The first thing that came to my mind when I read this was that some people feel pressured to by someone like a partner or someone they know who keeps continually asking. The other person may eventually just give in and say yes, but it begs the question if that was a real yes or if they were just pressured. They may verbally say yes but they don't actually want to and the sex was unwanted.

This reminds me of what I said earlier. Girls are always told not to get raped, but men are never told not to rape.

Personally I've been told by a lot of people "tips" on "how to not get raped" such as not wearing certain clothing, not going to certain places, etc. but they fail to teach people not to rape, how to get consent, and respect other people they wish to do sexual activities with. I would rather be taught that than how to "not get raped". That sentence almost makes me feel like it's somehow my fault someone may or may not want to violate me.

while I do agree that sometimes there are signs that someone may be into you, or want to have sex with you or whatever, I think it's important to still ask verbally. Personally I've had people say to me that I was being flirty with someone, when in reality I didn't even think I was, I wasn't into said person, and it wasn't my intention to come across that way and didn't realize I was. I feel like if people can get things like this confused, this could also translate to sexual activities. Additionally, I feel like when people really want someone to like them, they take every little thing as a sign in that direction. They don't want to believe the other person couldn't feel the way they do. So having said that, I think it's easy to misconstrue people's behavior as a "sign" or "consent with your body" so I think it's important to ask someone verbally if you think you may be seeing signs.

From my own personal experience, people seem to think of things like kissing or touching as a form on consent, and not something you need consent for. Last summer I was talking to a group of friends about a date I had gone on the day before, and I was telling them about how he had asked to kiss me before he did, prompting all of my friends to say that was "awkward" and "weird" when I had actually appreciated him doing that. The reactions I got from my friends definitely upset me because for me, if someone's going to put a part of their body on mine, they need to ask. There are no "signs" or "cues". I wish society saw things like kissing or touching as a thing you need to ask consent for, because personally, I don't want just any other person putting a part of their body against mine just because they might think I want to and I'm "showing signs".

I'm glad this reading brought this up, because in the last reading it definitely focused a lot on "penile-vaginal intercourse" and it excluded other forms of rape and sexual assault. There's a lot more things that can considered assault besides the legal definition, and I ultimately think it comes down to if one person didn't want whatever happened to happen, and they said they didn't want it to happen, then it's sexual assault.

I think movies and tv shows that include teenage sex in it definitely skew what we think consent is. A lot of times I've noticed that in movies they just skip that part and skip to a scene of two teenagers having sex, never showing any verbal consent being exchanged because it "looks better that way." It gives people the idea that sex is something that just happens, not something you should talk about or at least get a yes before it initiates.

I noticed that a lot of this focuses on man on woman rape but it doesn't really mention woman on woman or man on man or anything else. I wish that these other types would be included more in the definition since it can really happen to anyone those cases deserve to be taken seriously as well.

this is so true. I've had way too many conversations with people where they try to speculate reasons why the rapist is right, while also simultaneously trying to "prove" the victim was in the wrong.

I'd say this is an example of rape culture. I actually included the part about wearing more revealing clothing, such as a short skirt, as a way that some people try and justify someone being raped. People like to say they were "asking for it" when in reality, it's just a piece of clothing and the person wearing it is probably just wearing it because they like it, not because they wanted sexual attention or to have sex.

I've actually had this happen to me. During my freshman year of highschool I had been dating this guy for a little while, and he would at least several times a day, ask me if I was ever going to have sex with him. I would repeadetly tell him no, that I didn't want to, I didn't feel ready, and I honestly felt like I was too young to even be asked that by someone I was dating, but no matter how many times I said no he'd just get mad at me and he'd be back the next thinking he could just change my mind or I'd magically say yes. Admittedly I almost gave in because of how pressured I felt and I just wanted him to stop, but luckily I didn't and I just broke up with him. Luckily he just left me alone but it was a scary time. It really bothers me when people try to coerce others into having sex with them like that and that they don't really respect the other person's no.

I think pointing out how people have bodily autonomy in their everyday life with simple tasks like when you eat and what you wear is a really smart way of doing it! It really made me realize how much freedom I have over my own choices and that freedom shouldn't be limited when it comes to sexual consent.

To my understanding, the definition of rape culture is the normalization of rape in our society through things like victim blaming and slut-shaming. I always see people trying to justify someones rape by commenting on the clothes the victim was wearing and that it was somehow their fault just because they were wearing more revealing clothes. I think when people do that, that feeds more into rape culture and makes it harder for victims to be taken seriously and get help.