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  1. Nov 2022
    1. while some stated that you needed to develop the product while solving technical issues.1 Links to an external site. Even if these employees did not explicitly argue for Friendster’s persistence through the lessons that were learned from it, as those that related it to Facebook did, they did structure death narratives around overarching lessons, and described how these lessons were able to be mobilized in future work.

      The employees at Friendster took lessons away from the platform's demise, rather than learning these lessons as they went and revamping the platform around what they were learning.

    2. As he noted, in order to re-envision the network as one that primarily served Southeast Asian users, Friendster leadership had to go through the typical stages of grief–denial, then anger, acceptance, and action. For the group that he described, Friendster’s initial death was when it stopped serving, pursuing and being associated with US audiences, and when it started serving, pursuing and finally being associated with users in its long-dominant Southeast Asian markets.

      It's interesting to compare the failure of a platform with grief, but it is understandable. It's like their dream didn't work out so they have to mourn what could have been.

    3. With social networking features removed, he argued, the site had lost its network effect and therefore its potential for growth.

      The social networking aspect was probably it's biggest appeal and most unique factor at the time of its creation, so taking that away makes its potential for growth practically nonexistent.

    4. I thought [Friendster] was a failure, not because of the technical challenges, but because of the business decisions. Deciding that Friendster was going to be a media company, like NBC, to me, that was the beginning of the end for them.

      If you have constantly changing leadership it is hard to focus on a consistent vision, which probably made the company feel disjointed.

    5. rom the beginning, Friendster employees were under the directive to focus on US users and attempt to reduce the impact of the Southeast Asian users, lest these communities curb the platform’s growth in the United States, and therefore, its potential for monetization and its trajectory as a runaway success.

      It is interesting that they would want to curb the use of a group of people who were so heavily interested in their website, but I guess if you have your sights set on a certain demographic you can get tunnel vision and only focus on them. Maybe if they shifted their focus to the demographic that was responding more to the platform it would have had more longevity.

    6. Lee, another early architect, felt similarly. He pointed out that these scaling issues were common for social networks at the time:

      It's interesting that they say the slow load times were not what caused Friendster's death because I feel like they're biased because they engineered it. From a user's perspective, I wouldn't want to keep using a site that was always slow.

    7. They had had their big moment and then they couldn’t scale. They had insurmountable technical issues, which they weren’t focused on. Instead, they were planning for the golden future that they were going to have. […] Because of their technical issues, MySpace was able to take the lead.

      Great start because it was unique, but if you can't compete with the technical superiority of other platforms, you won't be able to succeed.

    8. A popularly cited reason for why Friendster died was that it had insurmountable technical issues related to scale.

      If users are frustrated every time they use a platform, it is unlikely that they will continue to return to it.

    9. Searching those who had previously worked at Friendster, I messaged individuals with an interview request and description of the project, phrased as one that examines the lifecycles of social networks. Interviewees were recruited from throughout Friendster’s tenure.

      It's interesting to interview employees who may have also used the platform because then they can give a perspective on the platform both as a user and an employee.

    10. A near synonym of death within Silicon Valley techno-cultures is failure. Indeed, when interviewees spoke of Friendster’s decline, they used failure and death metaphors interchangeably, and the open parameters of technological death that are used in this article allow for these terms to have significant overlap.

      Not all sites that have "died" failed. Vine is technically dead, and it was HUGE in its time.

    11. Following this, we might ask: does technological death have an afterlife?

      Some sites just fade out of existence. Some are completely obliterated. Apps like Flappy Bird and HouseParty are taken off the app store and never seen again. Websites like Facebook are still in use by a lot of people, but are in the process of dying because other websites are becoming more popular.

    12. Employees used moments of technical breakage to discursively acknowledge the aging of a system, and therefore reorient their shared goals around the end-of-life phase of the mission. In framing death this way, these studies establish a precedent for interpreting Friendster’s end as one that is socially negotiated, and for interpreting death as a term with expansive potential.

      Technical death can be looked as something that is agreed upon by a group of people. If the users of a technology come to a consensus about the problems with the technology they are using, it can/will fade out of fashion.

    13. a lens which proposes that “breakdown, dissolution, and change, rather than innovation, development, or design as conventionally practiced and thought about are the key themes and problems facing new media and technology scholarship today” (p. 222).

      A lot of the time, looking at the breakdown of a piece of technology becomes pessimistic. We need to keep in mind that as one technology dies, it makes way for a new, often improved, technology, which demonstrates our advancement as a society.

    14. Therefore, before I discuss the death of Friendster as a platform, it is useful to discuss what technological end-of-life has looked like in previous studies, the rationale for avoiding death as a term, and why it might be time to reconsider including it, especially for research on platforms.

      As I said previously, it is hard to pinpoint the death of platforms and compare them. One platform could completely shut down for all users one day, and others could simply go out of style but still be available for public use, and thus, never truly "die."

    15. ndeed, Friendster’s apparent death was far from agreed upon in both circumstances and timing.

      Naming a specific date as the "death" of a website is hard because different cultures used it for different amounts of time. It's hard to track exactly when apps and websites "die" because there could always be some people still using it.

    16. From this vantage point, Friendster was dead, a literal textbook case of Silicon Valley failure. In the years that followed, the platform would be sold to Malaysian payments company Money Online (MOL) in 2011, turned into a gaming site, and ultimately dissolved in 2018.

      The idea was good, and subsequent sites have perfected what Friendster got wrong, which proves that it was a good concept. I understand why it failed though, because most people don't have the patience to wait for websites to load, especially if it is a consistent issue on the site.

    17. Friendster is remembered within Silicon Valley circles as a progenitor of social networking and as a cautionary tale of remarkable failure. Founded in 2002 by entrepreneur Jonathan Abrams, the site enjoyed skyrocketing users in its early years–three million users by early 2003

      This immediately reminds me of Napster because of the name. This was created before I was born, and I have never even heard of it, which foreshadows a potentially unsuccessful history.

    1. The word Internet functions as a non-neutral metonymy for an historically embedded set of institutions and practices; in a sense it has more in common with the term “Hollywood” than, say, “moving image” (Streeter, 2016 Links to an external site.).

      I guess I never really thought of the internet being something other than a "thing," but I suppose it transcends that word because it isn't really something you can hold in your hand. It is so vast and all-encompassing it can be overwhelming.

    2. As a result, while the Internet did not emerge overnight from nowhere, in the American white collar imagination, it seemed to.

      Going from not having the internet one day to having it at your fingertips the next seems like it would be pretty jarring.

    3. And the direct experience of rapid development of new spaces online lent itself to a narrative in which the Internet had a telos.7 Links to an external site. It seemed to grow with a force of its own, beyond reach even of, say, Bill Gates.

      The internet having a telos is honestly kind of scary because it brings into the question of what would happen if the internet/technology completed developed a mind of its own.

    4. the recurring question about the future became “what will happen on the internet next?” instead of, say, “what will we as a society choose to do with computer communication?”

      Saying "what will happen on the internet next" makes it feel more like the internet is a separate entity with its own ability to make things happen, rather than emphasizing our part in creating what happens on the internet.

    5. It was all very high-minded. What was then officially called the National Science Foundation Network (NSFNET) would be used by scientists for sophisticated research and perhaps as a kind of electronic library where thoughtful patrons would quietly and studiously gather useful information.

      This is vastly different from what a lot of people use the internet for today. Obviously, there is a certain audience that still uses it for scholarly things, but a lot of people just watch funny YouTube videos and go on social media.

    6. n 1990, what existed of the Internet was understood as a research-oriented prototype that, according to legislation, would “be phased out when commercial networks can meet the networking needs of American researchers”

      It is weird to see 1990 because that is so recent. It's really a reminder how much the internet has grown over the past few decades.

    7. the U.S. Congress was revising the structure of its communications law for the first time in more than half a century, major corporations from the phone companies to Microsoft to the television networks were radically revamping core strategies, television ads for consumer products routinely displayed URLs and the Internet stock bubble was starting to inflate.

      It's amazing how this invention really changed the way all technology operated. The internet was revolutionary.

    8. Changes in style, shades of meaning and unstated assumptions are an indicator of the presence of structures of feeling.

      So are structures of feeling more representative of a shift in emotion, rather than of one emotion itself?

    9. in an important early overview article. Rosenzweig noted the many competing narratives and visions in writing about Internet history,

      Different histories emerge from different points of view. The internet is such a vast thing that it is hard to pinpoint the exact nature of its genesis.

    10. So, for example, myth and symbol school scholars looked at literary and popular texts in American history and identified recurrent themes such as “the machine in the garden” and the “city on the hill” which could then be shown to be operating in contemporary talk about new technology (

      These themes, particularly "city on the hill" remind me of things I have learned in American history classes. It seems as if they are using this phrase to compare new technology and new things on the Internet to a brighter light/hope for the future.

    11. Structures of feeling, he wrote, concern “meanings and values as they are actively lived and felt … characteristic elements of impulse, restraint, and tone; specifically affective elements of consciousness and relationships: not feeling against thought, but thought as felt and feeling as thought”

      This feels as though a structure of feeling is more of a definition/guideline for an emotion? The word structure is interesting here because I typically associate the word feeling with emotions and emotions are so fluid and unique to each person.

    12. Novelty in the digital does not surprise us; over the last 30 years, it has become an expectation.

      This just reminds me of new technology and websites, like Napster, Netflix, etc. sparking new industries (streaming, etc.)

    13. Yet, here he was cheerfully ceding any role for government. At that moment, he knew that this gesture of turning power over to the private sector would be so automatically accepted by this audience that it would need no defending.

      Turning over government responsibility to the private sector is an interesting move, but it seemed to be the right one here. It's an interesting move considering his previous history of wanting government/business partnerships.

    14. legal control existed for the Internet technically laid with the US government

      This is really interesting because it's weird to think of the internet, a place where people express themselves a lot, as something controlled by the government.

  2. Sep 2022
    1. hey are not, it is true, learning any trade which they may follow thorough life; but those messengers who choose to study telegraphy are said to make especially good operators.

      I would be interested to see what the boys who do not go into telegraphy do with their lives after being telegraph boys. You aren't really setting a great foundation for a future career, despite the good pay it provides in your youth.

    2. every boy is expected to serve ten hours a day.

      That definitely violates modern child labor laws. Even for adults, a traditional "9-5" job is only 8 hours a day, so this is crazy to me, especially considering how grueling the work they are doing is.

    3. But there are grades of promotion, and a boy who becomes a sergeant, and then has general charge of an office, giving out the uniforms, etc., is paid five dollars a week.

      This seems like a pretty good salary, considering that the other boys only get 2-3 cents per message.

    4. t is of course necessary for the boys to know the situation of every street in the city. A large map of the city is therefore placed before them, with the streets marked on it, but without their names.

      I wonder what the age range for these boys is because this sounds like some intense memorization. I'm from New York and I don't even know how to navigate without a map. It's a shame that the telegraph boys have gone underappreciated in history because their jobs seem difficult and important.

    5. Every boy, therefore, who is employed by the American District Telegraph Company is put into a training-school, and this school is a very interesting one. 

      This makes sense. At first I was confused as to what the prerequisites were to become a telegraph boy. At first, I thought it was just boys running around delivering messages, but it definitely sounds much more complex than that because of the work some of the telegraph boys have to do getting packages, fetching doctors, etc.

    6. But there are times in the year when a great many message come in for delivery between 1 and 7 A.M. At such times, ambitious boys are given an opportunity to do extra work.

      I couldn't imagine running around the city delivering messages as a young kid, so this is shocking to me. I suppose they needed to work though, so it makes sense.

    7. This record shows that the average time required is, with a surprisingly small variation from week to week, eight minutes and fifteen seconds.

      This is insanely quick. I wonder if you still needed to make ~8 minute time if you are going somewhere very far away, or if they account for how far you're going.

    8. A boy who is a slow walker or inclined to be lazy will not deliver so many while a very active boy will deliver more.

      You need to be in good health to be a telegraph boy. The title makes it sound like they sit at the telegraph machines all day, but now that i know that they get paid per delivery, you're going to want to move fast.

    9. work by a set of strict rules, so that if a boy is slow or careless, he may be known at once among all his comrades. Long experience has shown how this can be done, and all the regulations of the office are made so as to get from each boy the best service possible.

      Depending on how young the boys are, strict rules can be hard to follow, but it makes sense that they have a code of conduct in their work so that things actually get done.

    10. So rapidly are they expected to do their work, that even the very short time lost in opening and shutting umbrellas is held to be worth considering.

      This really emphasizes the speed at which telegraph boys must work. Opening an umbrella is a very quick task, so this sentence is really saying how every second of work counts as a telegraph boy

    11. These are the telegraph-boys or messengers. It will be found that they are not all dressed alike, and a little inquiry will show that this is because they are in the employ of different companies.

      If each company had their own selection of telegraph boys, that must mean there were tons of them running around. And this is only in New York, so I can only imagine how many there were in the United States at the time.

    12. if the business boys all over the land were to have justice done to them in the way of description, it would require the writing of a whole book; and a very interesting book it might be made, too

      There were so many boys helping out businesses that their contributions could fill a whole book. This is interesting because honestly I hadn't heard of telegraph boys before this, so it is interesting to see how they have been at least partially ignored by history.

    13. But it is very easy to overlook the fact that working side by side with these men, is an army of business boys, to whom all branches of trade are indebted for assistance, and without whose aid more than one industry would suffer at least serious inconvenience

      The boys were a big help, but I'm sure that lots of today's child labor laws would have been violated.

    1. Everybody living in a city sees the telegraph messenger hurrying along the street; hears the news-boy shouting out the names of his papers; is offered on every hand the services of the boot-black, or comes in contact with the cash-boy or office-boy.

      This kind of reminds me of paper boys who ride around on bikes and toss newspapers to people's houses. It seems like a small job, but without them, people might not get the news.

    1. The reasons are not hard to identify: students of history acquire, by studying different phases of the past and different societies in the past, a broad perspective that gives them the range and flexibility required in many work situations.

      It is really interesting to see what field history majors go into. Some continue to teach history, some go work in museums, some go into law, etc. I think that history is a unique field of study in the sense that it can be applied to so many different areas after you finish your studies in school, and you can also continue to study it after you graduate.

    2. The Ability to Assess Evidence

      Finding evidence is one thing, but the ability to be able to take a piece of evidence and put it into historical context is really the ability you need to find out how something relates to history.

    3. People who have weathered adversity not just in some work of fiction, but in real, historical circumstances can provide inspiration

      If we find similarities between our own lives and the lives of historical figures, or anyone from the past really, we can see what they did. It is a fascinating thing to be able to "take advice"/inspiration from someone who went through a similar situation in the past that has been recorded and apply it to your own life. Even if the situations you're in are not similar, you can still take inspiration from historical figures and use their lives to inspire/motivate your own choices.

    4. Only through studying history can we grasp how things change; only through history can we begin to comprehend the factors that cause change; and only through history can we understand what elements of an institution or a society persist despite change.

      We need to look at an extensive period of time to actually track change. We could look at small periods of time, but you won't be able to see what changes actually last and effect society.

    5. How can we evaluate war if the nation is at peace—unless we use historical materials? How can we understand genius, the influence of technological innovation, or the role that beliefs play in shaping family life, if we don't use what we know about experiences in the past?

      These are really interesting questions, and it goes back to what I previously mentioned about needing to look into the past to inform the future. It also makes me wonder how the people who first needed to evaluate these questions found answers? It must have been difficult, but we have them to thank because now we have blueprints for the present/future.

    6. Unfortunately, this use can encourage mindless memorization—a real but not very appealing aspect of the discipline

      This has always been my problem with history classes. It feels as if I am just memorizing facts to be forgotten at the end of the semester, rather than absorbing any information. If we want to actually use the tools history provides us, we need to absorb information.

    7. History is in fact very useful, actually indispensable, but the products of historical study are less tangible, sometimes less immediate, than those that stem from some other disciplines.

      The tools we get from history aren't things we can hold in our hands. They are pieces of knowledge that we can apply to our present and future situations, so of course we are not going to immediately see these tools go into effect.

    8. Given all the desirable and available branches of knowledge, why insist—as most American educational programs do—on a good bit of history? And why urge many students to study even more history than they are required to?

      As an answer to this question before I read the rest of the text: I feel that it is important to study history so that we can learn from the past to inform our future, especially our mistakes. We don't want to repeat a mistake twice. Also, if something worked successfully in the past, it is worth a try in the future. If it doesn't work in the future, we see growth/change in our society, and we can analyze why it didn't work and try another approach. I'll admit, history isn't my favorite thing in the world, but I think it is definitely important to look at and take note of.

    1. The central task will be to make the connections that help to explain why radio, television, and newer technologies developed as they did. We can also begin to imagine the connections that failed: the technological potential that was suppressed, the programs that never made it to a wider audience, the possibilities for a different kind of interaction with broadcasting that were shunted off to one side or actively discouraged.

      It will be interesting to see what sorts of technologies were pitched but never took off and imagine how they would fit in our world today. Would things be different? Better? Worse?

    2. fought back by running a write-in campaign for governor of Kansas in 1930, using the slogan “Let’s Pasture the Goats on the Statehouse Lawn.” His campaign was a model of populist appeal;

      This kind of reminds me how we have more celebrities running for office these days, like Donald Trump, Kanye West, Dr. Oz, etc.

    3. In 1923, Brinkley was awarded one of the first radio station licenses in Kansas, based in the small town of Milford where the Brinkley Hospital was located.

      I have never heard of Brinkley before, but it seems as if he was one of the first, if not the first "Radio Star." It is interesting that he was diagnosing people over the air, but I suppose that is not that far off from the telehealth visits we have with doctors today, in the age of COVID. Besides, of course, that our visits are confidential, while Brinkley's came with a boatload of listeners.

    4. For instance, we can understand one of the central events of the twentieth century, World War II, in two ways. The first is as a war of national borders: Germany’s attempt to take control of other countries and those countries’ defense of their national sovereignty. The other is as a war of interior borders, or identity: the attempt of a nation to assert a superior Aryan national identity and to wipe out its Jewish citizens and others who did not conform. Borders and identities—these are the stuff of nations. And so they are the stuff of history. Equally, they are the stuff of broadcasting.

      This is really interesting because, of corse, I know what World War II Was fought over, but I have never heard of it referred to as a war of interior borders/identity. I think this is a really intriguing perspective and I want to continue to look at history through this lens.

    5. One of the greatest utopian promises of the revolutionary new technology of radio in the 1920s was its ability to tie our vast and varied country together as a nation.

      Television and broadcast technology being created was great for the United States as a nation because it unified the country during a time when we were fractured. This unification is still present today, and we can see viewers coming together online to talk about what they are seeing on broadcasts/TV.

    6. For the United States, in particular, this gateway to television from outside our own cultural universe has been a revolution.

      We are starting to see the infiltration of media from other countries into America. There are some foreign shows on Netflix, and BTS has become huge in America. We definitely could be better at consuming media from other cultures, but we are also improving.

    7. We export our media products across the globe, and it is a rare country that has not had some experience with U.S. films, music, or television, not to mention similar products from other countries.

      The United States is a hub for media creation, and we export our products to be seen by the rest of the world. We don't know much about how broadcast works in other countries and/or the lack of broadcast in other countries

    8. Thus the history of 1950s America becomes a pastoral vision of moms at home, even though by 1960, fully 40 percent of American women worked outside the home and made up over a third of the total workforce, and even though in television many women found powerful and influential careers.

      A lot of television from the 50s still showed women working in the house, although many were employed and becoming/already were businesswomen. TV is a very helpful source, however, so the truth about how many women were in the workplace gets jaded.

    9. Even though some events can be proved to have happened, if they are not repeated in the right places, or worse, if they are overlooked or omitted by powerful histories, they can be silenced out of existence.

      If an event does not have enough proof/documentation, it is almost like it never happened, to some historians.

    10. But neither could history ever be written without careful use of clues to the past, or it would cross the border into fiction.

      We have to use our resources wisely (primary sources, preserved items, etc.) to ensure that we are creating an accurate retelling of history. If we extrapolate too much, history will become realistic fiction.

    11. break apart the two terms to arrive at the equation given at the beginning of this section: History (our understanding of what happened in the past) consists inseparably of both the past and historiography (K. Jenkins 1991).

      Historiography is NOT history. Historiography can contribute to our knowledge of history, but they are not interchangeable terms.

    12. Depending on the context into which we put these television programs, and the explanations we write around them, their history changes, even though the facts of their existence do not.

      If we look at these TV shows as emblematic of television at the time, we are going to get a different impression than if we look at it from a lens of TV as a whole during the time, which included more variety than just the traditional family story.

    13. As sociologist Stephanie Coontz wryly puts it, “Contrary to popular opinion, Leave It to Beaver was not a documentary”

      It is important to remember that these shows are completely manufactured, and we cannot compare our working class lives to their always affluent and close-knit family lifestyles.

    14. Most families in the United States were in fact not nearly as affluent, “non-ethnic,” or “traditional” as their TV models.

      TV strives to demonstrate perfection, and, at the time, "perfection" was this "non-ethnic," affluent, and traditional family model.

    15. These three trends were closely tied to the emergent business of the television broadcast networks, as they promoted TV set sales to suburban homeowners, aired shows sponsored by the manufacturers of home appliances and other consumer goods, and increasingly used market research to match up audiences, products, and appropriate programming.

      This is really interesting. I have never thought about just how much planning/though goes into marketing a show to a certain audience, but this is opening my eyes to that world.

    16. These families lived for the most part in a substantial suburban single-family home, with a yard and trees and neighborhood schools that the kids could walk to. Their kitchens contained the most modern appliances; they dressed well, owned at least one car, and entertained regularly. They ate meals together, served by Mom (unless there was a maid, usually depicted as an African American woman, as in Beulah or Make Room for Daddy). Not only were all the families affluent and mysteriously non-ethnic, so was everyone else in their neighborhood and social circle.

      This would seem to get bland after a while. It would be interesting to take a survey of viewers at the time these shows were airing to see if they noticed the repetitive nature of the families/lives they watched on television.

    17. “Strong families” meant heterosexual, nuclear units with a dad who worked, a mom who stayed home and looked after the house, and good clean kids who respected their parents. “Things were better” because the government stayed out of people’s private lives, and families were self-sufficient and right-thinking.

      You can see some of this model in later tv shows, like Full House, but in shows like that, the children are not perfect. I guess this shows the development of television to still show a close family unit, but not a traditional one.

    18. One has all the mighty machinery of the media industry on his/her side, the other can find it difficult to talk back or to find an entry point into the machine.

      We, as the audience, can interpret media in our own ways, but it is difficult to ask questions or have a discussion with authors about the true meaning of their messages. A lot of times, with media, someone will publish something and the audience will have a lot of questions, but they don't always get answered.

    19. Our political process, and the political processes of other nations, have been and continue to be fundamentally influenced by the power of the media.

      We have been able to see this in real time in the past few presidential elections, specifically. Candidates use the media, both on television/radio and social media, to get their points across for voters to see.

    20. look at them as conduits for social and cultural power. This includes the power to create understandings about the world and the people who live in it, the power to direct our attention toward some things and away from others, the power to influence how we see ourselves and our potential in life, the power to ensure that certain kinds of things get said over and over, while others remain silent, on the margins, without a voice.

      It is interesting to call broadcast media channels for social and cultural power. I've never thought about it that way, but it is very accurate. The way people use broadcast media to get their messages across and persuade people to think like them can be extremely influential in society.

    21. then you will no doubt see many holes in my perceptions

      When looking at books, you have to take into account the perspective of the author. People will have different opinions on what is really important to history, and we have to acknowledge that when we read.

    22. but as a creative process of interpretation and construction in which you can, at any moment, intervene.

      I suppose in the history of something like media/broadcast, we can actually knowingly contribute because we can participate in streaming, creating media, etc.

    23. Does history happen without you, or do you play a role in deciding what history is?

      This calls into question how important we are to history? To things that have already happened, we probably are not as important, unless the history we are learning about is within the timeframe of our lifetime. For the future, however, it is yet to be seen how important we are.

    24. each book starts with a preconceived framework

      The author of the book has to hand select which events/people/etc. are important enough to be included. Every single little thing cannot possibly fit into one book, so cuts and choices have to be made.

    25. Where could we possibly begin such a history?

      The history is so interconnected and complex that it cannot possibly be contained to one book. This really emphasizes just how important the development of these technologies have been in our lives

    26. came worry about the negative effects of the new connections

      People are always scared of change, whether it's a new technology, going to a new school, Y2K, etc.

    27. how a shift in one direction can cut off another, and how each “improvement” comes along with possibilities for ruin.

      An example of a shift in one direction cutting off another could be how "video killed the radio," so to speak. Advances in television made the number of radio listeners decline.

    28. barriers lifted and contradictions at least temporarily resolved

      Making connections can open our eyes to other points of view and new ways of living.

    29. You have had a mistress—I forgave you. My sister has a lover—you drive her from the house.

      Very hypocritical of him, which his wife says in the next few sentences. Perhaps it is an indication of some sort of self-hatred/guilt that he is taking out on her sister?

    30. see that his behavior affects the lives of others

      Kind of like a domino effect. Everything you do will ripple and fall into the lives of others. You can't just act with disregard for everyone else.

    31. find their lives forever altered

      This, combined with the "only connect..." phrase emphasizes how everyone you meet can have an important impact on your life.