I think this is really interesting. As a cis woman I can recognise where acting straight and feminine in society can have its benefits, rather than deviating away from the "norm". Although we find in many aspects fitting into the traditional norm can be beneficial potentially to acquiring government funds, or being more desirable for a job position because you act in a certain way. Although these are not fair, it is seen often.

However, I would argue everyone is in some way queer. When alone, or with those they are comfortable with, may present traits that are not considered as desirable by society. Whether it be based gender roles throughout the household. For an example, my partner and father of my children, doing the nightly routine with our children, playing games such as dress ups and tea parties, reading books with the children and giving them affection and more on the emotional level, all whilst I work in the office. While we believe this is equal, would society suggest these activities are "queer" for a "Male" to be doing? Or are we at a place where these activities are more accepted? (I believe it is more accepted" but based on traditional nuclear families, are these activities queer?

This is just one example but could relate to many activities that go on behind closed doors, that the public eye does not see where people would generally act out of typical "straightness, feminine or masculine roles". I would argue people are more 'queer" in those situations. I hope this makes sense.