By the term “gender,” I refer to the complex confluence of bodily materiality, felt sense of self, and our own and others’ placement of us within a discursive system.
Sex does not equal gender, and pronouns do not equal sex or gender. I like the wording of this definition, because it accurately portrays how I came to understand my own gender and how other people experience it as well. In my own basic terms, sex is whatever physical components you have that are the traditional binary genders (and also intersex individuals!), while gender is, simply put, how you feel. Whether you feel masculine, feminine, or on the nonbinary spectrum, or if you feel you have no gender at all. And pronouns are just words, in all honesty. Why sweat it if someone decides one set feels better for them and it makes them feel more comfortable and happy as a person? It may not be what you're used to, but its certainly not hurting anyone so why care?