as a communications major this is something that really sticks out because nonverbal communication (like the way someone dresses and styles themselves) is as important as verbal communication

this idea of the hanky code is very fascinating because, it is something that i never thought about, like whether certain styles can suggest certain things

i've read Walter Benjamin pieces and it's interesting to see references to his work in this text

this entire paragraph reminds me of covid and the way we have these thoughts of, "when was i infected" and "where" and the ideas of exposure

this relates back top my previous point that if an image lives, a cinema or film can live even further

this is also really interesting to me because when you take a picture of something, i consider the picture itself to be a living thing. so if you capture an image of someone or something that has died, i feel like even though there is death, the image is still living and for as long as that image exists in the world, the subject of the image is still alive as well

i think it's really fascinating that there's a case study about this because while the story was centered around two people, it really did provide a significant role in providing a new light and perspective on what AIDS is and how it genuinely affects people's lives

while the story is so important, i also find it fascinating the way technology was a contributor to the story and helped develop it in a way that was able to touch so many people's hearts through the vulnerable and raw nature of it

this reminds me of the pose episode we watched in class once because they touched on AIDS (if i remember correctly) but i feel like the U.S. public saw this crisis as a burden created by gay men rather than actually acknowledge the pain, grieving, and suffering people were going through

from here to the end of this paragraph, it reminds me a lot of Wittig's piece because it talks about the way the straight mind has created this heteronormative customs and behaviors that becoming the ruling forces in society

this is reminding me of the type of rhetoric that was seen during the rise of the AIDS crisis

signifies how the male is dominant and the female is submissive

this is really interesting to see because it's almost like a natural commonsense thought to think that people get pleasure from looking at things or being looked at, but actually seeing this process broken down in this way is adding a different connotation for me to where i kind of find it creepy in a way now, because it could produce obsessive behaviors eventually regardless of how calm or extreme those behaviors are

this reminds me of Wittig's piece through the way both writers recognize the way in which women always live in relation to something else and not in relation to themselves

this sentence is giving me Sigmund Freud vibes by the way it's written and what it means, talking about how a woman feels about her real absence of a penis reminds me of his penis envy theory

it's really interesting and also nice that the author did include a lot of different examples and didn't just focus on violence that affected women that was done by men, but also different instances that include LGBTQ+ people and other men as well. i think it does a good job on further emphasizing how vital it is to have a system in a college that actively prevents SA and takes care of those who tell their stories because things like this can literally happen to anyone regardless of age, race, sex, and/or sexual orientation

it's interesting because the rapists and raped coexist together on campus because the colleges don't ever really do anything about it and let rapists stay on campus and in school

this reminds me of how even though there really isn't police on USC campus, i believe there used to be (or maybe still is) a time where some DPS carried weapons

just like our class omg

this is unfortunately giving me a lot USC vibes especially recently with the SA cases, the DPS protests, and even not too long ago with the admission scandals

i feel like porn has contributed a lot to this because all women are now expected to be the same way when engaging in sexual activity to the point where when women are having sex, it's likely they're going to feel subconscious about their acts/behaviors rather than just enjoying the pleasure of it but wondering if they're doing a "good job."

this also reminds me of how men are deemed as the most sexual beings, glorify sex so much, and are the very first people to ever seek it out (even if they have to forcefully take it from someone) but they're the very first ones to have something to say about sex work

this entire paragraph reminds me of Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie's quote of how women aren't allowed to and aren't supposed to be sexual beings in the way that men are because then it makes them a slut or a whore

it's so interesting but also so horrible to see how for a man, sex is literally just seen as a reward

sunday scaries

this paragraph is also a good example of the capitalist society that we live in. the weekends have been made to seem as a rest from the day to day job but in reality, they're also used for work. because work takes up such a big portion of our lives, we don't have much time to attend to the things it is we need to do at home either like housework or for our own personal care so what's supposed to be a weekend of rest turns into a weekend of more work and attempting to catch up with life.

if paid, men will realize that women don't just serve them naturally and they'll probably feel like their masculinity is being attacked or weakened

interesting how there's both praise and shame attached to housework

housework has been deemed as such a normal tasks that when the conversation arises about wages being given to those who do housework everyone reacts indifferently

really good note on capitalism because the employer will always make more than the employed

can't conform to it either

shows how housework has always had a negative connotation attached to it by society

this reminds me of the same perspective i used to have. housework didn't seem like an important thing to me really but when my little brother was born, i saw the amount of work it takes to be a caretaker and a mom. i then realized this is a lot more labor and also then, the pandemic put more emphasis on house work

this statement was really bold and important to me because it made me think of traits associated to men and women are also oppressive because at the end of the day, they are constructs created under the patriarchy so if you embrace either or choose to act against it, in some ways, the patriarchy is still in control. because if you go along with constructs that exist, you're embracing the patriarchy and under the influence of it. and if you act against them, you are still under the influence of the patriarchy because it is that structure that we are working against.

this makes me think of how members of the LGBTQ+ community can also be oppressive towards other members within the LGBTQ+ community

i agree lol, but yes this sounds about right

one person's freedom means others who are oppressed have to be free too and people, for some reason, do not like that. they feel like groups have to be liberated one at a time since such liberation contributes to the loss of power the white supremacist structure we live in and if there's a feeling that power is being lost over oppressed group, they'll fear revolution

the way that they don't have any privileges that they can really rely on to help them and their cause

the idea of revolution and abolition comes to mind

that superiority that is felt between boys over girls when they're young can ultimately manifest itself in violence

this sentence is important because it's a good reminder of how original feminist movements didn't always include people of color or lesbians

the intersectionality and how they're oppressed both for being Black and women

this appears to be the mission statement

the consequences of internalizing the male view and gaze

masculinity complex

it's so interesting how regardless of sexual orientation, femininity is what is considered wrong. like if you are a feminine gay man it's deemed worse because they take on a female role and if you're a feminine gay women, you're likely to experience harassment and questions that ask you to prove your identity because you don't look the part

reminds me a lot of the toxic body positivity and self love movement