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 ethos, logos, and pathos

But there are some ways you can narrow your search to get fewer, more focused results. Marvin: Yeah, I know. Sometimes I add extra words in and it helps weed down the hits.

The Internet, on the other hand, contains both good and bad information.

Only 333. That’s more like it.

Still a lot. You can also put quotation marks around groups of words and the search engine will look only for sites that contain all of those words in the exact order you’ve given.

Marvin: So can I just use Google or Bing to find sources?

Sources of meaning are literally everywhere—for example, your own observations or experiences, the content of other people’s brains, visuals and graphics, experiment results, TV and radio broadcasts, and written texts.

The major paper for my health and environment class is due in five weeks, and I need some advice. The professor says the paper has to be 6–8 pages, and I have to cite and document my sources.

Currently, the average age for first marriage is twenty-six for women and twenty-eight for men, with more than half of adults marrying over the age of twenty-five.

Some people find each other through friends while others connect online or around town.

Today’s twentysomethings spend more time single than any generation in history.

there is not a single course on being smart about marriage,

happiness has more to do with whom you marry than with what college you attend.

The most important decision any of us make is who we marry. Yet there are no courses on how to choose a spouse.

“Love”

This is a contradictory and dangerous message. We are led to believe the twentysomething years don’t matter,

Some say the twentysomething years are an extended adolescence while others call them an emerging adulthood. This so-called changing timetable for adulthood has demoted twentysomethings to “not-quite-adults” just when they need to engage the most.

When Kate’s parents were in their twenties, the average twenty-one-year-old was married and caring for a new baby. School ended with high school or maybe college, and young parents focused on making money and keeping house.

In those days, the median home price in the United States was $17,000. Divorce and the Pill were just becoming mainstream.

Then, in the span of one generation, came an enormous cultural shift. User-friendly birth control flooded the market and women flooded the workplace. By the new millennium, only about half of twentysomethings were married by age thirty and even fewer had children, making the twenties a time of newfound freedom.

When Kate’s parents were in their twenties, the average twenty-one-year-old was married and caring for a new baby. School ended with high school or maybe college, and young parents focused on making money and keeping house. Because one income was typically enough to support a family, men worked but two-thirds of women did not. The men and women who did work could expect to stay in the same field for life.

It would be reckless for us to focus on Kate’s past when I knew her future was in danger. It seemed unfair to talk about her weekends when it was her weekdays that made her so unhappy. I also genuinely felt that Kate’s relationship with her father could not change until she had something new to bring to it.

I am too passionate about the twenties to let Kate, or any other twentysomething, waste his or her time. As a clinical psychologist who specializes in adult development, I have seen countless twentysomethings spend too many years living without perspective.

She thought she was supposed to be having the time of her life but mostly she felt stressed and anxious. “My twenties are paralyzing,” she said. “No one told me it would be this hard.”

she still did not have a driver’s license, despite the fact that this limited her employment opportunities and made her feel like a passenger in her own life.

Tired of lying in the sunshine, staying home to watch the rain You are young and life is long, and there is time to kill today

She describes her time in Mexico as being in a state of joy where she is constantly daydreaming. Life in the quaint town surrounded by mountains is quiet, with little to no distractions.

“I feel it’s our responsibility to support young Latino and Latina writers who are probably being discouraged by their families not to write and who are not being published by the big presses. Also, not all the good writers get attention and win awards so I feel I need to give back.”

“Latino writers were not being published by the mainstream press, so we had to publish ourselves,” she says of the 1980s. “I feel it’s our responsibility to support young Latino and Latina writers who are probably being discouraged by their families not to write and who are not being published by the big presses. Also, not all the good writers get attention and win awards so I feel I need to give back.”

While she now makes a living with her pen, it was not always so easy for her or her Latino/Chicano contemporaries.

I used to sell that book for a dollar a copy out my backpack while I was still studying for my MFA,” she recalls. “I never thought I’d make money writing.”

“The idea of writing a best-seller was not on my mind when I wrote ‘The House on Mango Street,’” she said. “I wrote it to stop the swelling in my heart from the stories that I was hearing and witnessing.”

“They’ve been looking for loans,

It’s poetically fitting that Sandra Cisneros, the Chicana literary trailblazer and best-selling novelist, plans to donate the cash prize that comes with winning this year’s International PEN/Nabokov Award to her assistants so they can buy a home.

the world we live in is a house on fire and the people we love are burning.”

Here you can only go by intuition. If they stray hopelessly off the subject, drag them back. If you like the new direction, follow along and forget the questions you intended to ask.

Take a while just to chat,

This can all be learned with experience.

You will never again feel so ill at ease as when you try it for the first time,

To learn the craft of nonfiction you must push yourself out into the real world—your town or your city or your county—and pretend that you’re writing for a real publication. If it helps, decide which publication you are hypothetically writing for.

t was chosen with a little difficulty, because some of the characterization was not very authentic or convincing. But as a narrative it had the quality which the French call attention: it made you want to turn over the page to see what happens next.

books had always been selected by a panel of strong-minded judges and sent to equally stubborn subscribers, who never hesitated to wrap up a book they didn’t like and send it right back.

Micawber

patent

This is a person talking to the reader directly, not through the filter of a writer.

Nothing so animates writing as someone telling what he thinks or what he does—in his own words.

We fail to explain our feelings to our partners – because we don’t understand ourselves well enough. We act out our feelings rather than spell them out, often to destructive effect. (we break the door rather than explain we are mad with anger).

Choosing the wrong partner

LOVE

Without self-knowledge, all sorts of problems may occur:

neuroses

LIVING WITH OTHERS

We believe we seek happiness in love,

we tend to blame the partner – and call it a day

how are you about feedback

what are your talents at work

Were you able to pick up a raisin between your fore-finger and thumb when you were five months old?

Knowing yourself has extraordinary prestige in our culture. It has been framed as quite literally the meaning of life.

unexamined life was not worth living.

Know Yourself,

“What are your problems? What are your concerns?”

“School Lunches

If you don’t believe in God, it may help to remember this great line of Geneen Roth’s: that awareness is learning to keep yourself company. And then learn to be more compassionate company, as if you were somebody you are fond of and wish to encourage.

When was twenty-one, I had my tonsils removed. I was one of those people who got strep throat every few minutes, and my doctor finally decided that I needed to have my tonsils taken out.

dewy

Not one of them writes elegant first drafts.

This is how they end up with good second drafts and terrific third, drafts.

“Shitty First Drafts”

We must continue to work the compost pile, enriching it and making it fertile so that something beautiful may bloom and so that our writing muscles are in good shape to ride the universe when it moves through us.”

“Maybe away from Paris I could write about Paris as in Paris I could write about Michigan. I did not know it was too early for that because I did not know Paris well enough.

Our sense by themselves are dumb. They take in experience, but they need the richness of sifting for a while through our consciousness and through our whole bodies. I call this “composting.”

it is hard to write about being in love in the midst of a mad love affair

Point B

behind one of the windows sits my father.

“Good morning, Papa.” And my papa he would tell me that he loved me.

“Go on baby, get yo’self a plate” Kind of Women.

Sheepish grin

This is me she is carrying. I am a baby. She does not know I will turn out bad.

I am from clothespins

It just goes to the property boundary When my neighbor steps back and says, “Oh. You’re not from here, are you?”

I am from three states and six different cities.

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Naming Myself

I carve my crooked name, and again at night until my hand and arm are sore

My hand cramps around the thin hardness.

My teacher bends over me, gently squeezes my shoulders, the squeeze I give my sons, hands louder than words.

I would like to baptize myself under a new name, a name more like the real me, the one nobody sees. Esperanza as Lisandra or Maritza or Zeze the X. Yes. Something like Zeze the X will do.

I have inherited her name, but don’t want to inherit her place by the window.

ut I think this is a Chinese lie because the Chinese, like the Mexican, don’t like their women strong.