The trap looks beautiful. It’s well-lit. It welcomes you in.
If the system gives validation and success, why would someone want to escape it?
The trap looks beautiful. It’s well-lit. It welcomes you in.
If the system gives validation and success, why would someone want to escape it?
Women are genuinely trapped at the intersection of capitalism and patriarchy
Money systems and society’s rules about women work together to make women feel like they always need to improve how they look and act
pop culture has started to reflect the fractures in selfhood that social media creates.
Constant comparison creates anxiety because people compete with perfected photos.
They encourage you to produce yourself as the body that they ide- ally display.”
Tolentino explains that fashion and advertising don’t just show beauty standards, they make people change themselves to match those standards.
feedback loop,”
Definition: a cycle where behavior keeps reinforcing itself
life has become frictionless.”
Tolentino shows how capitalism, feminism, and consumer culture combine to turn self improvement into a lifelong responsibility.
ut the idea, and the vast majority of the category, belongs to women.
I'm confused on what this sentence means.
In 1844, “optimize” was used as a verb for the first time, mean- ing “to act like an optimist.”
Tolentino shows optimization started as an economic idea but slowly spread into everyday life thinking.
The beauty ideal asks you to understand your physical body as a source of potential and control.
Self improvement feels empowering but creates a lot of pressure still
ven in situations like this, in which women’s choices are constrained and dictated both by social expectations and by the arbitrary dividends of beauty _work, which is more rewarding if one is young and rich and con- ventionally attractive to begin with.
She critiques a version of feminism that treats all choices as empowerment, but those choices are shaped by society pressure
he default assumption tends to be that it is politically important to designate everyone as beautiful, that it is a meaningful project to make sure that everyone can become, and feel, increasingly beau- tiful. We have hardly tried to imagine what it might look like if our culture could. do the opposite—de-escalate the situation, make beauty matter less.
Tolentino is trying to say that instead of reducing beauty pressure, society tries to include everyone inside the beauty system but the problem never fully goes away
Photoshop use in ads and on magazine covers, which on the one - hand instantly exposed the artificiality and dishonesty of the con- temporary beauty standard, and on the other showed enough of a. ' powerful, lingering desire for “real” beauty that it cleared space for ever-heightened expectations.
Even movements like sever editing which is meant to fight unrealistic beauty can create new pressures which now causes people to think they must look naturally perfect all the time
Under this ethical ideal, women attribute implicit moral value to the day-to-day efforts of improving their looks, and failing to ‘\meet the beauty standard is framed as “not a local or partial fail- ure, but a failure of the self.”
Instead of blaming unrealistic standards, women blame themselves. The system shifts responsibility from society to the individual.
I like trying to look good, but it’s hard to say how much you can genuinely, independently like what amounts to a mandate. In 1991, Naomi Wolf wrote, in The Beauty Myth, about the peculiar fact that beauty requirements have escalated as women’s subju- gation has decreased.
Tolentino is saying women may think they freely choose to live up to beauty standards , but those choices are shaped by social pressure. Even as women gain independence, beauty expectations actually increase.
fatalism
Definition: believing you cannot escape a situation
enclothed cognition,
Definition: the idea that clothes affect how you think and behave
permutations
Definition: different versions or variations of something
incentive
Definition: something that motivates behavior
paradigm
Definition: a way of thinking or a model people follow
here beauty has historically functioned as a symbol for female worth and morality
Question: why does society treat appearance like a measure of character?
Beauty constituted a sort of “third shift,” Wolf wrote—an extra obligation in every possible setting.
Summary: omen already balance work and home responsibilities, but beauty expectations add more stress to the job. Maintaining appearance requires constant effort.
this seems to me to be the thing, with barre, that people pay $40 a class for, the investment that always brings back returns.:
People are literally pay money to become better at surviving stressful lifestyles
Learning how to function more efficiently within an exhausting system:
People pay money to become better workers and be more productive
we can now counsel one another to do all the same things but for ourselves.
Question: Is choice real if social pressure never disappears?
marginal utility
Definition: the extra benefit gained from one more choice or product
ephemeral
Definition: something that is only temporary
beauty is now framed,
Question: why is moral value connected to appearance?
It prepares you less for a half marathon than for a twelve-hour workday,
Fitness culture helps people survive capitalism instead of escape it.
Barre feels like exercise the way Sweetgreen feels like eating: both might better be categorized as mechanisms that help you adapt to arbitrary, prolonged agony.
Summary: the author is trying to say exercise here isn’t about joy or health, it trains people to endure stressful modern life and makes you work way harder.
precarity
Definition: unstable or insecure living/working conditions
But today, in an economy defined by precarity, more of what was merely stupid and adaptive has turned stupid and compulsory.
Things that used to be optional like working constantly now feels required just to survive.
mechanically effi- cient salad-feeding session, conducted in such a way that one need not take a break from emails—is the good life. It means progress, individuation. It’s what you do when you've gotten ahead a little bit, when you want to get ahead some more. The hamster-wheel aspect has been self-evident for a long time now.
Summary: Tolentino is saying modern success looks like being busy and efficient all the time. People think productivity equals happiness even though it keeps them stuck working nonstop.
Buchanan described the chopped salad as “the perfect mid-day nutritional replenishment for the mid-level modern knowledge worker”
Question: what parts of life are we losing when everything becomes optimized for productivity?
But the worse things get, the more a person is compelled to optimize.
Question: are people improving themselves or just trying to survive unrealistic expectations?
The chopped salad is engineered. . . to free one’s hand and eyes from the task of consuming nutrients, so that precious atten- tion can be directed toward a small screen, where it is more urgently needed, so it can consume data:
Paraphrase: even eating is designed for efficiency so people can keep working or consuming media.
most pleasures end up being traps, and every public-facing demand escalates in perpetu- ity.
Things meant to feel fun (fitness, beauty, lifestyle trends) become pressure and work.
accelerated capitalism.
Definition: a fast paced system where productivity and improvement never stop
Figuring out how to “get better” at being a woman is a ridiculous and often amoral project
Paraphrase: Trying to perfectly perform womanhood is impossible and unfair.
It is harder for us to suspect images produced by our peers, and nearly impossible to get us to suspect the images we produce of ourselves, for our own pleasure and benefi
Does social media make comparison worse because the images feel more real?
the power of the ideal image never actually wanes.
Even when beauty standards change, pressure on women never disappears, it just takes a new form.
Everything about this woman has been preemptively controlled to the point that she can afford the im- pression of spontaneity and, more important, the sensation of it— having worked to rid her life of artificial obstacles, she often feels legitimately carefree.
Tolentino is trying to say her life looks natural, but actually requires a lot of money and effort.
meticulous
Definition: very careful and detailed
The ideal woman, in other words, is always optimizing.
Women are expected to constantly improve their appearance, lifestyle, and productivity which means they are never staying satisfied.
She looks like an Instagram
Is Tolentino criticizing social media for turning real people into products?
monetizable
Definition: something that can make money
The ideal woman has always been generic.
Tolentino is saying society keeps creating the same type of “perfect woman,” even though trends change.
She looks like an Instagram
Is Tolentino criticizing social media for turning real people into products?
monetizable
Definition: something that can make money
The ideal woman has always been generic
Tolentino is saying society keeps creating the same type of “perfect woman,” even though trends change. She is not unique at all.