It seems that people are making assumptions off of one encounter, one view in regards to what a female lawyer is, or how a black family live their lives. Nobody has all of the answers so a feminine lawyer who likes to dress up is just as probable as a less feminine lawyer who like to put on sweats as soon as they get home.
Earlier a response said Theo keeps his room clean all the time and never argues with siblings. He clearly has only seen 1 episode because the one we watched he argued with his sisters and his room was a disaster.
You need more than one view if you're going to make broad assumptions.