Chastity comes much harder to men than to women. It’s no secret thatthe undisciplined male sex drive is monotonously predictable and frivo-lous. For men from 13 to 93 years of age, nothing ever seems to change,except perhaps the specific source of gratifying friction. Man’s arousalis so physical, indiscriminate, effortless, supersonic and imperious. Formen, release from sexual tension comes across as psychologically periph-eral, largely phenomenal: no big deal. Left to their wanton ways, mostmen find sex one big, obsessive game with few or no ulterior motives ormeanings. 4