This burden of forgiveness, moreover, is compounded by a burden of responsibility. Even as women are expected to do the work of patching up damaging and damaged relationships, they are also, contradictorily, expected to leave them.
In terms of gendered abuse towards women it is important to understand when viewing programmes that are intended to fix relationships. Women are always expected to be the ones that have to pick up and repair the damage that has been made. It this programs it is never looked at as combined effort of both parties to fix dysfunctional relationships. As women have to take the responsibility they are also expected to leave a situations if the relationship is so bad. I find this interesting in how we view what roles gender has in relationships. More often than not people are under the assumption that the women have to take all the responsibility.