No excusesIt is never okay for someone to hit you or be cruel to you. You may think alcohol or drugs make a partner abusive. Those things may increase the chances of abuse, but they never make it right.You also may think it is your fault that your partner has hurt you. But you don't control how your partner acts, and you can't make someone mistreat you.Keep in mind that if you sometimes hit your partner first, you can get help learning how to stop. Talk to a mental health professional, like a school counselor, or a doctor or nurse.
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