for - eating - life - death - incorporation of the other - example - kleinian dynamics - eating - life sustaining - coexists with - life taking - life = death - you must die so that I may live - When I eat you or you eat me, - You transform what was once a part of my body into your body, taking from me what you need, and getting rid of the rest - So in essence, we destroy others so that part of them can become part of us and vice versa