the things that cluster up top they were things like um 00:12:21 relationships uh character related things um and then like education but not from i want to go to the most elite school possible just i want to they want to get they want to get training to do things that matter to 00:12:33 them right they wanted purposeful lives and they want to be good people and let me give you one specific example so in the aggregate the number three most important trade-off priority for people this was this was just in the united 00:12:46 states was to be viewed as trustworthy [Music] like and yet they don't think anybody else really cares about it it's the third most important thing to 00:12:59 them and yet they don't think that it's like they think people would prioritize it very very low now think about the problem right i want to be trusted i believe i'm trustworthy but i don't think anybody else really cares and i don't really 00:13:12 think they're trustworthy how does how does a democracy function if we really don't think not only are people untrustworthy but that they don't even care about it and it's just not true so this is the kind of damage that illusions do to 00:13:24 societies