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  1. Jun 2019
  2. Jan 2018
    1. less efficient over the course of the day than I might have been, and certainly less so than some of my colleagues, who managed to get the same amount of work done and go home at a decent hour

      Yes, and this is why I actually find value in having a structured work time period (work between when I drop my kid off at 9 and pick him up at 4!).

    2. professionals today

      Especially with tech companies and start-ups!!

    3. saying no to opportunities they once would have jumped at and hoping those chances come around again later

      this is how I feel about not taking on extra travel, jobs, conferences, etc. I can't do it now, hopefully I will be able to do more in the future, but who knows?

    4. It’s possible if you sequence it right.

      Yes, I'd like us to chat about this. A mantra I often say is "there is no good time to have a baby..." unpack that....

    5. If we really valued those choices, we would value the people who make them; if we valued the people who make them, we would do everything possible to hire and retain them; if we did everything possible to allow them to combine work and family equally over time, then the choices would get a lot easier.

      Yes, I agree with this and this is what I try to practice. I don't work with people who don't get this.

    6. mined with stereotypes. From years of conversations and observations, however, I’ve come to believe that men and women respond quite differently when problems at home force them to recognize that their absence is hurting a child, or at least that their presence would likely help. I do not believe fathers love their children any less than mothers do, but men do seem more likely to choose their job at a cost to their family, while women seem more likely to choose their family at a cost to their job.

      Yes, although this is largely socially conditioned and reinforced

    7. weekends are a bad choice

      YES!! I wish conference organizers would realize this!!

    8. travel sucks

      Yes... this is one of the hardest parts of being a working mother for me. Only able to do it because my mother can come to watch my son at home.


      YES. And make high quality childcare more affordable!!!

    10. These numbers are all the more striking when we look back to the 1980s, when women now in their late 40s and 50s were coming out of graduate school, and remember that our classes were nearly 50-50 men and women. We were sure then that by now, we would be living in a 50-50 world. Something derailed that dream.

      What will our future look like as now most university students are female? What kinds of jobs will these women take on?

    11. leadership positions

      Why are "leadership positions" the ultimate goal? I don't think having one female in a C-suite position would change the fact that the entire rest of the company is all men for example...

    12. elect a woman president and 50 women senators

      Not sure I agree with this... that is one step but is that the "best hope" ?? reminds me of Du Bois' idea of the Talented Tenth https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Talented_Tenth

      Why do we need to rely on a few "top women" to change the system for the rest? Political, legal and judicial changes are one key aspect but who is to say that just because someone is a woman that they will have feminist issues at heart? Grass-roots changes (and negotiations in the household about responsibilities at home), changes in how communities and local institutions (childcare, etc.) are structured will make a BIG difference too!

    13. real barriers and flaws that still exist in the system

      THIS is the thing that needs to be really worked on by development agencies, gov't bodies, companies, etc. who are now working on the "in vogue" women's empowerment "issue". It is not just about propping more women up in leadership positions or hiring more women but also about fundamentally CHANGING the system to allow for conditions that enable more diversity (of gender and otherwise!)

    14. round-the-clock nannies

      The thing is, basically the labor at home will be the same, we need others to help with it! Question is who is available nearby to help nowadays. I think this gets at one issue which is that nowadays the domestic family unit is a nuclear family. Having extended family and close friends is KEY to be able to share in domestic household labor...

    15. “many of which they don’t even seem to realize … They take two years off when their kids are young but then work like crazy to get back on track professionally, which means that they see their kids when they are toddlers but not teenagers, or really barely at all.”

      So important to remember (note to self)!! Just because our babies are not clinging to us anymore, they still need us around even as teenagers!

    16. she doesn’t raise her hand anymore … She starts leaning back

      Yes, for a while (first two years of my son's life) I basically just did the base minimum I had to in order to stay in the program because it was either that or not be in the program. But I think I've been lucky b/c in my program, I never really felt pressure to go above and beyond. The "base minimum" was okay with most and I didn't feel particularly "behind." But that is a luxury of being a PhD mama that I think you don't find in most jobs. I think in general, we need to change the valuation of what counts as valid/useful/valuable input/outputs/ knowledge. We need to change the culture/standards/expectations/metrics of what is considered "good" within the academy (and elsewhere) because otherwise, non-normative students (and employees) e.g. pregnant women / moms will never fulfil expectations of what one is "supposed to be doing" and we will never do as good a job as other "normative" students / employees (who work crazy hours, don't sleep, etc. etc.). If we had more inclusive, humane and kind working practices and expectations/cultures, everyone would benefit !

    17. typical for the vast majority of working women (and men), working long hours on someone else’s schedule

      Hmmm, but I think the motivations for doing the job might be different. For many working class parents, it's likely more about making ends meet - for A.M. Slaughter, I think it was probably more about "doing good" for the country/gov't etc. Do those differences matter? How?

    18. travel frequently

      I think this is one of the hardest parts of our job + having kids... but I also think that it is very good for our kids to learn how to manage without us for small periods of time. My mother was a flight attendant and I think part of why I became so independent was because of that!

    19. America’s economy and society

      Is it just in the US? If so, where can we look to for better examples?

    20. how unexpectedly hard it was to do the kind of job I wanted to do as a high government official and be the kind of parent I wanted to be, at a demanding time for my children

      Does greater public admission of this (challenge to balance home care and public work) make it easier to justify societal assumptions and policies (like this one in Tanzania! https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/2017/jun/30/tanzania-president-ban-pregnant-girls-from-school-john-magufuli) to keep girls at home!)?

    21. I’d been the one telling young women at my lectures that you can have it all and do it all, regardless of what field you are in. Which means I’d been part, albeit unwittingly, of making millions of women feel that they are to blame if they cannot manage to rise up the ladder as fast as men and also have a family and an active home life (and be thin and beautiful to boot).

      How do we do this and replicate these expectations explicitly and implicitly ? What can we do differently (say no, you can't have it all; choose one??)

    22. “It’s such a pity that you had to leave Washington”

      Prioritization of male work outside the house rather than "home" work in the house... From my brief stint as a SAHM (stay at home mother), the summer when my son was 6 months, it is SO hard... it was such a relief to start going back to school in the fall... But I feel like even as a woman, it is easy to think that being SAHM is so easy/luxury...

    23. the needs of two teenage boys was not possible

      Interesting b/c you would think that teenagers need less work than babies/toddlers... but kids always need their parents around no matter the age...

    24. feminist beliefs on which I had built my entire career were shifting under my feet

      Which were what explicitly?

  3. Apr 2017
    1. research design

      Yes, but is it about being taught research design as if it is a thing or diving into it from all angles to see if there might be alternatives to the traditional way of doing it. I don't think we do enough exploration of the methods themselves. Needs to be more post-structural skepticism of method but integrated with the fact that we stil have to do it, how can we do it differently? I don't think enough coursework on exploratory methods/experimental methods and what the challenges they are trying to overcome are...