- May 2019
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I would like men to use feminism as an inspiration, in the same way that feminists used the civil rights movement as theirs. I’m not advocating a quick fix. There isn’t one. But we have to start the conversation. Boys are broken, and I want to help.Sign Up for Jamelle Bouie's NewsletterJoin Jamelle Bouie as he shines a light on overlooked writing, culture and ideas from around the internet.
so a movement to make male vulnerability normal?
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I believe in boys. I believe in my son. Sometimes, though, I see him, 16 years old, swallowing his frustration, burying his worry, stomping up the stairs without telling us what’s wrong, and I want to show him what it looks like to be vulnerable and open but I can’t. Because I was a boy once, too.
toxic masculinity in the work?????Was the boy taught that he should keep his feelings locked away?
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Men feel isolated, confused and conflicted about their natures. Many feel that the very qualities that used to define them — their strength, aggression and competitiveness — are no longer wanted or needed; many others never felt strong or aggressive or competitive to begin with. We don’t know how to be, and we’re terrified.
I believe that this is related to something called hyper-masculinity I believe that the testosterone in males are also responsible for why there are more male shooters. This shows that it is a biological thing and has happened throughout history. Every violent things all involves mostly men no matter what setting it takes place, dating/love, war, competitive games/sports, money, fame, and survival. Only if it involves some sort of loss, hurt, or hurting their pride. However, ALL men are not like this. ONLY those who are incapable of handling the mental/emotional stress, those who are delusional, those that have "guts" and sinister courage JUST to defend their pride from being attacked, which can be summed up as mentally ill. I will refer back to toxic masculinity, most boys with a certain level of mentally illness tends to not get help and are are not as open. This tend to make things worse, and their aggression can turn to physical violence. Girls on the other hand as mentioned are more open and more capable of achieving this help, and will often have other ways other than alcohol/drug abuse to help distract them.
There are many many many many factors, and it's nearly impossible to list them all. But the general reasons to why there are more men shooter or just male criminals then females is as mentioned biological, psychological, and social factors.
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But we can see at least one pattern and that pattern is glaringly obvious. It’s boys.
Yes. Refer back to my annotations/my thoughts on the previous paragraphs
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To be clear, most men will never turn violent. Most men will turn out fine. Most will learn to navigate the deep waters of their feelings without ever engaging in any form of destruction. Most will grow up to be kind. But many will not.
Yes, that makes things much clearer. Not generalizing, just specifying.
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And so the man who feels lost but wishes to preserve his fully masculine self has only two choices: withdrawal or rage
Those capable - rage/violence (either self or to others) those not capable - withdrawal
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They are trapped, and they don’t even have the language to talk about how they feel about being trapped, because the language that exists to discuss the full range of human emotion is still viewed as sensitive and feminine.
Toxic masculinity as we learned in class does play a role.Yes because of this, most girls are more "social, seeks support", emotional and more open about their problems to people.. Boys on the other hands, are taught to be a fighter and strong. It can be embarrassing to them if a guy were to cry about their problems around their peers.This can play a role to why more male are more vulnerable to corrupted thinking and actions. From childhood to now, the people they associate with, the movies/films they watch, books they read, etc, toxic masculinity is already programmed into many men's mind. Many factor plays a role into why there are more male shooters, and I agree that toxic masculinity is one of them.
https://www.nytimes.com/2019/01/22/us/toxic-masculinity.html
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It’s no longer enough to “be a man” — we no longer even know what that means.
In today modern society, especially western culture, gender roles changes rapidly especially from environmental and social factors. As learned in class, a male can be assertive (masculinity trait) with his children and his wife, but if he's in the workplace. He becomes obedient, submissive, and docile to his boss. And if his boss is a female, then what is gender role?
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The past 50 years have redefined what it means to be female in America. Girls today are told that they can do anything, be anyone. They’ve absorbed the message: They’re outperforming boys in school at every level. But it isn’t just about performance. To be a girl today is to be the beneficiary of decades of conversation about the complexities of womanhood, its many forms and expressions.
Agree...feminist has been around for quite some time with roots connecting to 14th century France, Christine de Pizan (based on my knowledge).
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Last week, 17 people, most of them teenagers, were shot dead at a Florida school. Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School now joins the ranks of Sandy Hook, Virginia Tech, Columbine and too many other sites of American carnage. What do these shootings have in common? Guns, yes. But also, boys. Girls aren’t pulling the triggers. It’s boys. It’s almost always boys.
Yes and No...It is true that these horrific events happened. The articles are all over the web with a simple search. So the facts are true. But the last few statement contradict each other. It is true that the events she specifically provided all involves a male culprit. But by saying "Girls aren't pulling the trigger"..."many other sites of American Carnage"..."its boys. It's almost always boys" is contradicting, thus false. There are female shooters too. Here's some examples. 1) A women shooter at YouTube Headquarters in California, a very recent event. 2) A women who shot up a elementary school in the lates 1900s: Brenda Spencer. So far of what I have read, I believe that gender has nothing to do with shooting and crimes. The causation is more related to gun laws, federal/city laws, and mental illness, but that is another argument.
But what I agree on is that there are more male shooters/criminals that male. But why is that? What I believe is that is has to do with biological, psychological, and social factors, which I will answer a bit more as I get through the reading.
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I used to have this one-liner: “If you want to emasculate a guy friend, when you’re at a restaurant, ask him everything that he’s going to order, and then when the waitress comes … order for him.” It’s funny because it shouldn’t be that easy to rob a man of his masculinity — but it is.
If this statement is implying all guys has the same level of sensitivity and pride, then that is clearly wrong. I, for example, this situation won't strip my masculinity away as well as many guys. But if the author is implying that a man's masculinity is sensitive, then yes, I agree that is true. But each man have a certain degree of masculinity, and how they respond varies. (This is just an introductory to their point of their article, I will continue reading)
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