for - adjacency - curiosity of the other - polarization - Common Human Denominator - the sacred - TED Talk - Can curiosity heal division? - Scott Shigeoka - 2024 Dec - othering - self and other - adjacency - deep curiosity - Deep Humanity Common Human Denominators (CHD) - awakening to the sacred - a good transition - social tipping points for complex contagion - wide bridges

• Summary / adjacency
• between
  • deep curiosity
  • Deep Humanity Common Human Denominators (CHD)
  • social tipping points for complex contagion
• new adjacency relationships
  • Scott Shigeoka is a researcher on social divisions.
  • He is also queer and embarked on an adventurous, embedded, courageous and personal research project to venture into Trump country
    • to apply his academic training and curiosity to see if he could
      • find a way to form authentic relationships with people he had always considered 'the other'
    • What the one year experiment taught him was that deep and authentic curiosity is a valuable tool for learning the ubiquitous othering now prevalent in our modern world
    • Out of this experience, he wrote a best selling book called
      • Seek: How curiosity can transform your life and change the world
  • Curiosity is a powerful technique to mitigate othering and is aligned with Deep Humanity Common Human Denominators, which are fundamental qualities all humans share which are.
    • important for navigating the rapid transition our species of going through
    • whose appreciation remind each of us that we are sacred
  • Social TIpping Points of complex contagion requires building wide bridges to diverse groups early on
  • Scott's experiement illustrates building wide bridges
  • Indyweb information infrastructure is open source and supports diversity as it increases the efficacy of collaboration

for - illusion of self narrative / construction - third pillar - insight - key insight on insight! - not about CHANGING NARRATIVES - but about PENETRATING THE NARRATIVE to understand its essence - - Youtube - Tukdam talk - An Overview Of CHM’s Work On “Well-Being And Tukdam” - Prof. Richard J. Davidson

for - third of four pillars of wellbeing - insight - a curiosity driven knowledge of the self - Youtube - Tukdam talk - An Overview Of CHM’s Work On “Well-Being And Tukdam” - Prof. Richard J. Davidson

comment - this insight is specifically about the nature of self as a narrative construction imposed upon a constellation of changing thoughts and emotions - when we gain the insight that the solid-appearing self is constructed on emptiness, research shows that this insight sets the stage for wellbeing to emerge

How to talk to yourself! Positive Self - talk and motivation are best executed when done this:

1) Positive self-talk improves performance in most sports.

2) Questions like “Will I do this?” produce better results than statements like “I will do this.”

3) Using “we” in self-talk is better than using “I.”

4) Talking about yourself in third person is more effective than talking in first person.

5) Both motivational (“I will do this!“) and instructional (“See the target…straighten elbows…lock onto target…“) self-talk seems to be effective in enhancing performance.