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Here, writer Bina Venkataraman shares a startlingly easy strategy that we can use to defeat future challenges.

We all have important things we want to accomplish, but there are so many distractions and stumbling blocks that can get in our way.

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It is often asked, “how can I always believe in myself?” The answer: by first building that unshakable faith within yourself.

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How big would you play? Where would you leap? How would the world benefit because of who you decided to be? In what ways would your life be different? How would the world be different?

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Do you remember playing double-dutch (the jump rope game, with two ropes) as a kid? Do you remember ever standing there — frozen in self-doubt — just watching the ropes twirl by while your friends all shouted, “Jump in! Jump in!”?

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So if you want to make better decisions, rise to a higher level of performance, and take care of your brain

To get a good night’s sleep requires good sleep hygiene.

When we can’t bring our best selves to work

However, if you don’t get good quality deep sleep

To understand why sleep is such a powerful driver of better decisions

So, what if there was a way to help ourselves make better decisions — in ways that improve our physical health, mental health, and our ability to live a more productive and fulfilling life?

Our decisions shape our days, our lives, and who we are.

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How to know whether you're a 'helicopter parent' and why it matters

What Is Helicopter Parenting? Experts Say It's Too Much For Kids

Both these studies concluded: Be available for your child, but let them take steps to come to you.

wires between trying to be a supportive, positive parent and a hovering, helicopter parent got crossed.

10 Warning Signs That You Might Be a Helicopter Parent (And How to Stop)

When they receive parental support they didn’t ask for, they feel less competent and have less initiative than peers who weren't parented in this way, and lack a sense of confidence because of it.

And kids who say they had over-controlling parents have higher levels of depression and reported feeling less satisfied with family life.

This reveals one characteristic of helicopter parents: They're often from the highly educated middle class or wealthier, with social and financial resources to share with adult children.

Research is piecemeal, but a few surveys and studies reveal the phenomenon is widespread in the U.S.

The parenting style, characterized by a helicopter-like tendency to hover over children and swoop in to rescue them at the first sign of trouble, exploded into mainstream consciousness in the early 2000s, just as the oldest millennials were entering young adulthood. This was, to be fair, a fraught time in the culture: Between the events surrounding Sept. 11 and two economic crashes in 2000 and 2008, parents had cause for concern about their children's futures.

And what to do about it.

5 Signs You Were Raised By Helicopter Parents

Logically, I should be able to do what I believe is best for my kids in each circumstance rather than changing my parenting style to suit each individual teacher’s preference. Practically, that’s easier said than done. Many others who also don’t know exactly how to strike that balance seem to go strongly in the cover-your-ass direction of the more involvement, the better.

Instead, we have to have the courage to decide what’s important to us, communicate it to our kids’ schools and then stay the course regardless of how much peer pressure we face

Part of the reason behind this mental tug-of-war between the kind of parents we’d like to be and the kind we feel we should be is that nobody seems to agree on what the appropriate level of parental involvement is.

we live in a culture that pressures us to take on these behaviors even as we criticize them.

Who wants these kind of relationships with their kids?

“It’s always things like, ‘I have nothing of my own, my parents surveil the portal constantly and read all my texts.’” Or, “I’m not allowed to do anything for myself.”

we have gotten used to setting aside our own opinions about what’s best for our kids and looking anxiously to authority figures to tell us what’s right. But ultimately, parents, the responsibility lies with us:

recipe for a pressure-cooker environment

stress and guilt for time- and resource-strapped parents

And less discussed, but also problematic, is the effect on parents.

Listen, I know that the biggest indicator of success in school-aged kids is parental involvement. How could I forget? The media is constantly banging that gong via books, articles and nightly news programs. And it seems most of us have gotten the message; the percentage of students whose parents report attending meetings, conferences and school events reached an all-time high in 2016.

If you’re like many parents, sometime in the last month or so you gave up the better part of a weekday evening to attend back-to-school night. Perhaps you stuffed your body awkwardly into a tiny chair made for second-graders while obediently writing down field trip dates. Maybe you leaned forward eagerly as you learned about the new grading system your sixth-grader faces, seeking reassurance your child won’t be overwhelmed in this unfamiliar system.

Helicopter parenting and bulldozer parenting are bad for everyone — including parents

"Remembering to look for opportunities to take one step back from solving our child's problems will help us build the reliant, self-confident kids we need."

So how can a parent love and care for their children without inhibiting their ability to learn important life skills?

How can you avoid being a helicopter parent?

What are the consequences of helicopter parenting?

The problem is that, once parenting becomes governed by fear and decisions based on what might happen,

It is a tricky line to find, to be engaged with our children and their lives, but not so enmeshed that we lose perspective on what they need," Dr. Gilboa says.

But, says Deborah Gilboa, M.D., founder of AskDoctorG.com, "many of the consequences [parents] are trying to prevent--unhappiness, struggle, not excelling, working hard, no guaranteed results--are great teachers for kids and not actually life-threatening. It just feels that way."

four common triggers.

Why do parents hover?

In toddlerhood, a helicopter parent might constantly shadow the child, always playing with and directing his behavior, allowing him zero alone time," Dr. Dunnewold says. In elementary school, helicopter parenting can be revealed through a parent ensuring a child has a certain teacher or coach, selecting the child's friends and activities, or providing disproportionate assistance for homework and school projects.

Although the term is most often applied to parents of high school or college-aged students whodo tasks the child is capable of doing alone (for instance, calling a professor about poor grades, arranging a class schedule, manage exercising habits), helicopter parenting can apply at any age.

Who is a helicopter parent?

Helicopter parenting refers to "a style of parents who are over focused on their children," says Carolyn Daitch, Ph.D., director of the Center for the Treatment of Anxiety Disorders near Detroit and author of Anxiety Disorders: The Go-To Guide.

The term "helicopter parent" was first used in Dr. Haim Ginott's 1969

What is helicopter parenting?

Here's how to tell if you're a helicopter parent, along with expert advice to curb the hovering.

Confused about how to be an involved parent without smothering your kids?

What Is Helicopter Parenting?

Mistake 1:  Setting inconsistent goals or expectations.

Understanding them, and how they impact your team, will help you identify those who are at flight risk, and make changes that may convince them to stay.

fifteen years working in data science

But not every company has a fancy algorithm to help them out

The good news

Losing an employee can have a drastic effect on team morale, and result in a domino effect that leads to poor performance and productivity. Not to mention, it is expensive, and not just because of lost talent

Algorithms are becoming increasingly relevant in the workplace.

8 Things Leaders Do That Make Employees Quit

it’s worth asking what you might be missing not through stupidity, or error, but because you’re systematically denied certain kinds of information

This bias may be too fundamental an aspect of our experience for us ever to overcome it completely

The more instances of something we encounter, the more significant we naturally assume it to be – and though we encounter our own solitude frequently, we never encounter other people’s.

observability bias

In fact, it’s a mathematical oddity that your friends do have slightly more friends than you do, on average

doesn’t it seem like they’re always meeting friends at the bar?

Assuming you don’t spy on your friends via telescope from treetops

a study from the University of British Columbia

Psychologists are regularly berated for spending their workdays reaching blindingly obvious conclusions about the world – an accusation that isn’t entirely unwarranted.

You never see your friends at home alone in their pajamas, watching The X Factor, and feeling sorry for themselves.

Lonely? Short of Friends? Try Looking at It Differently

And that’s exactly what builds trust and influence when content marketing is done well.

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The art of disinterested goodwill

Trust works on many levels:

one of the benefits that content marketers have over competitors who don’t create and freely share valuable information

trust becomes critical

It’s as if awareness of a brand is enough to spark trust

Add in some clever messaging to prompt some level of liking, and mission accomplished, right?

Know, like, trust

And if you’re not hitting all three, you’re likely not enjoying success with your content.

How to Build Trust and Enhance Your Influence with Content Marketing

y using specific facts rather than broad statements

In a study in Norway, researchers tried a variety of different headline styles on a shopping website: “For sale: Black iPhone4 16GB” (the regular headline), “Anyone need a new iPhone4?” (question headline without referencing cues), and “Is this your new iPhone4?” (question headline with referencing cues). They found that question headlines with audience-referencing cues (“Is this your new iPhone4?”) generated higher click-throughs than other types of headlines.

your reader immediately feels known and named

A study on the psychology of waiting in line found that when we don’t know how long something is going to take, we experience that time differently. If a patient in a waiting room is told that the doctor is running 30 minutes late, he might be annoyed at first but he’ll eventually relax into the wait. But if the patient is told the doctor will be free soon, he spends the whole time nervous and unable to settle down because his expectations are being managed poorly. When we’re in this situation, time actually feels like it’s going slower for us.

humans like predictability and dislike uncertainty.

Superlatives – words like best, biggest, greatest – can be effective in headlines. But it turns out that negative superlatives (like worst) can be even more powerful.

Tell the reader enough to pique curiosity but not enough to give the whole story away

We’re not curious about something we know absolutely nothing about.

Viral powerhouse site Upworthy

The best question headlines ask something that the reader can empathize with or relate to or would like to see answered

if you already know what you’re going to get from something like a headline, your curiosity might be over before it can even start.

they prime our curiosity.

surprising dissonance between Barack Obama

Surprising headlines are winning headlines because our brains love novelty.

This works in two parts: surprise captures our attention, and then interest holds it.

presenting something unexpected—breaking a pattern—will help you capture attention

to understand what makes them so irresistibly clickable

Recently I dug into all the research I could find about headlines for a Mozinar on The Science of Writing Must-Click Headlines on Social Media.

Strategies

Winning

Sure, but don’t take it from the hours you are sleeping.

Don’t buy into the cliché that the only successful side hustle is a grueling, sleep-depriving grind.

A lack of play in adults has been linked to losses in productivity, well-being and a decline in likeability. Without play, it is almost impossible to be innovative and resourceful in your business.

You might think you don’t have enough time to squeeze in a little fun, but by leaving it out, you are limiting your ability to bring your best self into your work.

By play, I am not referring to rest and recovery; that is covered next. Play means you are doing something just because you enjoy it.

Spend a week or more trying out varied tasks at different times of day. Track your energetic state before getting started and write notes about the quality of your work. Do you get your best marketing ideas during a high energy morning? Is your energy too low at the end of the day to review contracts? Look for patterns and adjust your workload accordingly.

Optimizing your workload to match the energy needed for the tasks will help you get more done, in less time, and create a better life experience. To do this, notice when your energy is high and creative, balanced and focused or low and fading.

You won’t have the same levels of energy at all hours of the day.

Add a communication task to your daily, or at a minimum weekly, task list.

Make sure you never forget why you’re working so hard.

better manage obligations, sustain connections and increase fulfillment while integrating your side hustle into your life.

And the journey from side hustle to small business can be long.

When you follow your passion and launch a business on top of an already full work and personal life,

A new study on side hustles suggests that finding time for your passion projects will tax all areas of your life.

Thus, the person who acts honorably at all times will never have anything to fear if and when their actions are laid bare.

everybody is unsure about whether what they’re doing or planning to do is right or wrong.

Warren Buffet’s “Newspaper Test”

“Let nothing be done in your life, which will cause you fear if it becomes known to your neighbor.”

Every time someone discloses a weakness of their own accord, they’re making a deposit in their trust account.

Honesty can bring great rewards

How To Win Trust

The Truth Is The Best “Trick”

the simple truth is:

Of course, business history has had its share of ingenious liars and fraudsters, swindlers who are skilled at concealing their real intentions and winning trust they don’t deserve.

even more crucially

So what’s the best way to win the trust of others?

building confidence by trusting others and receiving their trust in return is the most important prerequisite for success in the business world

When the richest man in history is prepared to disclose the secret of his success, it’s definitely worth listening.

his biggest problem

“old men had confidence in me right away”

richest man in history

For proof of the crucial role of trust in business,

Why It's More Important Today Than Ever Before

Don’t we all need someone who’s just a little bit stronger than we are? Someone who can kiss it where it hurts and hug us like nothing else matters. Someone who can remind us that we don’t really need to be that strong—all the time.

Life isn’t about faking it until we make it,

I am done being

Not because I have failed, but because I have learned.

When that began to happen a sore opened inside my heart with the devastating knowledge that I could only fake it for so long

After all, I was supposed to aspire to lead the ranks and smash the glass ceiling, right?