This ominous realization did not occur and come together for me until just now:
Kate's influence did not start with Kate directly. It would have started with her son Liam. I've not recognized until now the likely significant role he plays in this. He is her son. He would have already been fully traumatized by Kate or by the situation with his dad, depending on if it existed, but if it did or didn't, the fear/abandonment/insecure attachment disorder would be entrenched in both Kate and Liam and they would be reinforcing it in each other. Rhyanna working with Liam at Subway would have been the first contact in which casual conversation would begin the subtle campaign by Liam via trauma reenactment (and also fueled by being a teenage boy meets girl savior/peacocking mentality) that at first innocuously and then overtly was showing (manipulating into false belief) that she is victimized. Liam then notifies Mom of "the recruit", probably a genuine felt statement like "Mom, there's this girl at work and it sounds like she's going through what we went through and we could help her". Then Mom [Kate], which we know this happened, took the initiative to contact her (or told Liam to bring her over to the house to hangout so she could then introduce herself and have 'a talk' with her). Phone numbers were shared, instructions to not let Dad know where they lived were given, taking out to dinners were done, sharing of "stories about my husband we don't tell other people so please don't share this" were given about "my dangerous psychotic husband that Liam and I had to flee from and go on the run because the system couldn't save us so we had to act outside it". This matches the dynamic and origination story of every cult/radical "church"/scientology/NXIVM story I know and it is the same dynamic whether it's the pathogenic parent or pathogenic adult influence which in this way has an extra component of evolution. Ie, the pathogenic adult has created/obtained a pathogenic "victimized" subordinate follower. The follower then acts as a relatable/ice-breaking recruiter that has the effect on the target of " they're my peer, they're like me, I can therefore trust the accuracy of what they're saying more and am more willing to listen". Then when the follower eventually introduces the pathogenic adult, the critical judgement defence of the target is suppressed/ignored because the target has made the naive judgment error that since I believe and feel trusting in this peer, I can put that trust into someone he is introducing me too. And because that person is "the adult in the room" this person instantly gets, erroneously, the elevated security clearance in the target's mind that this person is a "trusted"+"adult"+"who understands me"+"has my best interest"+"and knows what I need". Additionally, when speaking with this adult, should the target's defense mechanisms of critical judgement start turning on, the target then looks to a reference point to "reality test", and the follower, Liam, is immediately on hand and present almost daily to act as that reference point nodding reassuringly when the target glances over [literally or metaphorically]. ..... Combine this with a parent who is getting sicker and sicker, who's observably by the child who knows her father well can tell his fear, anxiety (particularly regarding his ability to provide for them both), and sadness because of his non-improving sickness from a mysterious unknown deadly pandemic disease, a parent who is the SOLE parent and there is no second parent to reality test against and get reassuring grounded perspective (ie you are not victimized, dad isn't going to kill himself, yes this is a tough situation but we and you are not a victim and this is not a Hallmark/teen drama, and tough situations like this have long been and are a prolific part of human life and we can more than handle this situation and frankly will serve to accelerate your empowered growth and deeper understanding, meaning, passion, joy of life and further shedding of vulnerability to irrational and mismanagement of uncontrollable fear as a general skill set in your personal quiver. This all is the loss of the second, of which there may only be 2, fundamental defense mechanisms to safeguard a child's sound critical analytical/judgement skills. It is easy to empathize with a child's daily living experience, especially an adolescent, how these are the 2 mechanisms which are functioning by which they are consuming and assembling all new knowledge and understanding. #1 They first use their incumbent developed analytical/judgement skills to self analyze a concept or problem or question. #2 They verify that determination with their trusted source of truth and protection, ie their parents (a reality test). Perhaps this at the root of the common report "teenagers think they know everything". It's probably the first time the first mechanism is developed strongly enough to feel like it can safely be used in its own. And in being the first time, many errors will be made and in many of those errors the use of verification of mechanism 2 will not be used. An ill unimproving parent will exacerbate the error to not use mechanism 2. Fear and anxiety will exacerbate errors in mechanism number 1. Severity of those insults would proportionally affect the rate of error. Malfunctions in both mechanisms would have a multiplicative effect on damaging erroneous conclusions the child arrives at and the damage further choices on those erroneous conclusions causes. Then when the "virus" of the narcissistic/BLP cross generational shared persecutory delusion boundary violation gains entry into this now much increased "analytically vulnerable" child, it has the critically added effect of disabling mechanism 2 since the patent now becomes "all bad [splitting]". ..... Then ..... add to this child a history that she is a survivor, albeit exceptionally so, of incurring the pain and largely successful battle for separation from a very narcissistic mother and the family that produced that narcissism in her mother. The entire repercussions of that I am not sure, but relevant here is I think that means my child's developmental reality has a biased understanding and emotional sensitivity to the fear that a parent "I thought was normal, changed into a monster" and second "I fully believed a truth about the 1 of 2 people I trusted and depend on the most, and I was wrong. How can I trust my own conclusions now if I can't trust my own analytical and emotional judgement abilities?". No doubt also a fear and anxiety upregulating mechanism in and if itself, as well as providing a data point which can add confusion to a child frantically looking for understanding and/or can be leveraged to falsely rationalize the false narrative is correct especially when the pain of the truth is building and she is looking for any tool to suppress confronting that pain.
Then, as Rhyanna further looks for, or rather it is imposed onto her, the naive drama thirsty peer group, whom many know Liam and Kate, and whom with very good intention but naivety of teenagers who in Boulder Colorado are conditioned to both be very helpful and that money and wealth (like them) combined with middle aged Caucasian combined with a "Boulderite" personality with an air of non-confrontational superiority and cancel-culture tendencies is the equivalent of "insightful, wise, holder of truth, and generally the definition of what is good, righteous, and hold the authority to declare whom is bad and further that it is expected that they will declare whom is good and bad and that action further validates that they are and have such authorities" in these teenagers minds reenforces this false truth as accurate.. Then the school, then CIRT team "mental health professionals", then the mental health hospital centennial peaks, then Boulder county child welfare via multiple staff, then the court and the judge personally all buy in and propagate this false truth and reinforce it overtly or indirectly overtly, and some propagate it by simply ignoring and not speaking out against or in questioning validity, all reinforcing this false truth. ..... And given all this, given all these goddamn ignorant spineless children of men in their lack of knowledge or past traumas, and under the weight of their ignorance and cowardice and laziness, and then under the unreal weight and fear and confusion of her and her dad, her one parent who's been her warrior defender of knowledge, self discovery, safety, character, food, and shelter, and whom no other family support exists is now very possibly dying and cannot speak for himself or to her (because her confusion and outside influence is not allowing it) to tell her the truth and reassurance of the situation ....... her heart and mind refuse to yield. The pain from her heart refusing to give way to the lie, they are trying to make her believe had caused her to want to kill herself. My daughter s unyielding heart and character brought tears to a police officer who'd not had the fortune of experiencing someone like my daughter. And still, after a year and a half, my daughter, MY daughter, still holds fast and is unwilling to tell the COURT that her resistance is because of me and is instead because of her. Yeah, that's who my daughter is. That is the caliber here. She is her father's daughter.
I see you kid. You hold fast. I'm comin' for you.
PS - Attention needs to be given to Liam. With consideration towards his possible and to what degree of trauma, and the validity of the story regarding his father.. It is now a real question, is his father above and well, normative, searching for his son and or fallen into decline, suicidality, doom? Is Liam about to lose a father and be irreversibly severely damaged because of the complete irreversible devastation, which will also include the self blame he incurs and will not be able to reconcile.
PSS - likely it is both important and the is the time to revisit with focus Rhyannas feelings and understanding of her mom. She possibly stands to gain 1, a self confidence and esteem and complete obliteration of any feeling/false rationalization that she is somehow "less", that she is at fault, or that she is somehow "less capable" of a person now and going forward, 2) stamp out reactions of hate, tolerance, splitting, and walls she might form that would prevent problem solving, truth finding, and understanding so crucial to both abilities and finding of joy, particularly in relationships of love and family, 3) she stands to gain a mother and an entire side of a family and which is attained by a fulfilling relationship of her own architecture and which she is fully empowered to control and manage and nurture at her pleasure.