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  1. Jul 2020
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  3. May 2020
  4. Sep 2019
    1. \7herethere is leisure for fiction, there is little grief.

      This quote jumped out at me. Basically, if you have enough free time that you can spend it on something like writing, how hard can your life really be?

  5. May 2019
    1. Perception matters very much, and it opens the window for how you would proceed toward resilience and strength.
    2. Another poet, John Keats, recommends in his letters to a young poet that he develop a capability for living with unanswered questions. Keats calls this ‘negative capability,’ and this is what it takes to live with loved ones gone missing. This is also the way for the rest of us to stop pressuring these families to find closure.” Ms. Boss: Yes. We just have to stop pressuring people to get over it. It’s cruel, actually, to do that.
    3. “closure” is a terrible word in human relationships. Once you’ve become attached to somebody, love them, care about them — when they’re lost, you still care about them.
    4. But my point is, that too is a meaning. The fact that it’s meaningless is a meaning, and it always will be meaningless.
    5. I think we could help each other in society to learn how to speak to people who have missing loved ones. I think it’s perfectly good to ask them, “How long has it been?” Because they want to tell you how long it’s been, and sometimes it’s been decades.
    6. “Do you remember that story I told you about my husband oversleeping and that it was my fault?” I said, “Yes, I remember.” And she said, “Well, he always set the alarm clock. I realized that, finally. It wasn’t my fault. He just wanted another hour to be with us.”
    7. Most of the caregivers I have met and studied and treated are not depressed; they’re sad. They’re grieving. This should be normalized. Sadness is treated with human connection.
    8. Well, we now know that this is not true and that human beings live with grief and, in fact, are able to live with grief.
    9. That’s part, again, of a culture of mastery, a culture of problem solving and wanting to move on with things.
    10. We come from culture in this country of, I think, mastery orientation. We like to solve problems. We’re not comfortable with unanswered questions, and this is full of unanswered questions.
    11. It’s a more Eastern idea that suffering is part of life.

      Note to self: try to find some good citation/literature on this

    12. But, yes, the only way to live with ambiguous loss is to hold two opposing ideas in your mind at the same time.
  6. May 2015
    1. Lethe (Leith)

      The River Lethe was one of the rivers of Hades in Greek mythology. Exposure to its waters was held to lead to loss of memory, or, more intriguingly, a state of "unmindfulness" and oblivion. From this origin, it has re-appeared throughout western culture, from Dante to Tony Banks's first solo album (River Lethe in popular culture, Wikipedia).

      By providing the alternative spelling of Leith, Alasdair Roberts 'doubles' this meaning with the Water of Leith, a river that runs through Edinburgh, and co-locates ancient Greek and contemporary Scots mythology.

      The idea of eternal return is bound up with memory, with cultures being compelled to repeat and confront the missteps of the past. So the oblivion of forgetfulness provided by the endless Lethe provides a form of antidote or escape.

    2. my sermons seven

      In interview with Tyler Wilcox in 2009, Alasdair Roberts referred to the

      specifically Jungian references to the "sermons seven" and mandalas... it's like a quest song against conflict and towards individuation. I know a lot of people with strong political or religious convictions whose musical and artistic practice is guided by that – in some ways I envy that kind of certitude, but I suppose my thing is always about flexibility, multiplicity, confusion wanting to reflect the turmoil of reality... always trying to remember that the oar in the ocean is a winnowing fan on dry land.'