• Dramatic Collapse of Home Hosting:
  • The share of Americans who host friends or family at least monthly plunged 70% over the last half-century, dropping from 42% in 1975 to just 12% in 2026.
  • Data confirms Robert Putnam's Bowling Alone prediction: rather than migrating to public venues like restaurants or bars (where solo dining is actually rising), in-person social visiting is vanishing overall.
  • While solo activities like workouts, travel, and concerts have grown, time spent at home alone has increased dramatically.
• Key Drivers Behind the Decline:
  • The Harried Dual-Earner Household: As women entered the formal workforce en masse, unpaid management of the family social calendar was lost, and men did not step up to fill the gap. Coordinating dinner parties functions like complex logistical project management, which overtired working parents avoid.
  • Intensive Parenting Culture: Parents spend drastically more direct time with their children today than in the 1970s, displacing adult-centric evening hosting with parenting duties, tutoring, and activities.
  • Shrinking Friendship Networks: Core social networks have eroded across generations, particularly among unmarried individuals and those without college degrees, turning home hosting into an exclusive luxury good.
  • Home as an Entertainment Fortress: The modern domestic space has become optimized for low-friction, screen-based comforts (streaming, algorithmic video, food delivery). Compared to digital media, dinner parties require high friction, calendar synchronization, and social risk for uncertain rewards.
• The "Lump of Leisure" and Coordination Failure:
  • Unlike labor, which expands to meet new technological realities, social leisure behaves like a finite resource easily crowded out by effortless solo digital pastimes.
  • The retreat into private spheres reflects a systemic coordination failure rather than individual malice: when given the choice at 8:00 PM, friction-free media consistently defeats the logistical hurdles of gathering people together.

Hacker News Discussion

• Hosting as Obligation vs. Joy:
  • Commenters reflected on past eras (such as the 1970s), noting that regular dinner parties were often driven by social duty, anxiety, and an unspoken "balance sheet" of reciprocation rather than pure leisure.
  • Conversely, others argued that prioritizing comfort and avoiding social friction resembles avoiding exercise: even if socializing feels like a drag in the moment, avoiding it produces long-term psychological and physical decline.
• The "Comfort Crisis" and Friction Elimination:
  • A primary talking point was that society has optimized for convenience to a toxic degree (referencing Michael Easter's The Comfort Crisis), progressively shrinking personal comfort zones.
  • Users drew parallels to video games (like original World of Warcraft), where eliminating travel and logistical friction made the experience hyper-convenient but drained it of emergent community and genuine satisfaction.
• Commercialization and Activity Expectations:
  • Several participants observed a modern mentality where socializing has been redefined around paid activities and commercial venues rather than casual, inexpensive hangouts at home.
  • High lifestyle standards and performative domesticity also discourage hosting, as people feel intense anxiety about having homes that are insufficiently tidy, spacious, or impressive for guests.

Data as a "collective good". (I suspect the fine points of the distinction between "public good" and "collective good" may be important here.)

• for: smart cities, doughnut cities, cosmolocal, downscaled planetary boundaries, cross-scale translation of earth system boundaries, TPF, community data, local data, open data, community data ownership, quote, quote - Garth Graham, quote - community owned data
• quote
• paraphrase
  • Innovation in the creation and sustainability of social institutions acts predominantly at the local level.
  • In the Internet of Things, for those capacities to emerge in smart cities, communities need the capacity to own and analyse the data created that models what they are experiencing.
  • Local data needs to be seen as a common, pool resource.
  • Where that occurs, communities will have the capacity to learn or innovate their way forward.
  • So far, smart city systems are being set up to appropriate and commercialize individual and community data.
  • So far, communities are not waking up to the realization that a capacity they need is being stolen from them before they have it.
• author: Garth Graham
  • leader of Telecommunities Canada

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I'm glad. I didn't like that the book (which is essentially a form of documentation/tutorial) was proprietary.

I think it's better to make documentation and tutorials be community-driven free content

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COVID-19 Social Science Tracker - Google Sheets

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