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    1. The little-discussed fact is that it’s super uncomfortable to be loved when the feeling is not mutual (see my song Please). So uncomfortable, in fact, that many of us would rather act like callous, cold-hearted assholes than be in the same room as the person who loves us. We panic, we get distant, we deny any interest or care for the other person, we stop returning their texts. But that’s not an aversion to love, or to the lover; it’s the attachment and expectation being hurled in our direction with such intensity.

      What is attachment? Why would we ever prefer people to be detached? So what if someone is attached? Can't we resolve to fail to satisfy their wants without feeling guilty, rather than request that they temper their wants or somehow remain cool and detached from them?