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  1. Dec 2020
    1. Sanders explains that often when parents see that a child does not appear to be motivated, they tend to place blame and judge. Instead, she recommends that parents should be curious about what is going on and try to work collaboratively by problem-solving.

      Great Parenting.

      Try to understand why your kid has problems with motivations, maybe along the self-determination theory route (autonomy, relatedness, and competency).

      Try to see if your child has a sense of control of the situation, what skills they have or are lacking to tackle the issue, and if they feel heard and connected.

  2. Nov 2020
    1. Observations, on the other hand, cultivate connection by showing you’re paying attention, Braman explained in her post; that’s why she encourages parents to lead with statements like “You seem frustrated,” or “You’re full of smiles.”

      Asking a kid "how was your day" can cause them anxiety because they still don't have the language to describe their feelings. This question usually don't lead to any good.

      On the other hand, make observations! Say something like "you seem frustrated" or "You seem pretty happy today". This helps them develop a language to describe how they are feeling.

      As I was writing this I thought about how important books are. They can describe the emotional language of someone and help the reader empathize with it and also adopt ways to express themselves.

    1. a child's curiosity could serve as an important teaching tool when the child is allowed to explore the things that the child is curious about

      这点对家长特别难,因为孩子的好奇心意味着,时间,花销,精力,甚至危险。要想成为一个好家长,首先要自己要储备足够的精力,修养足够的耐心(对于很多家长,只要有精力还是有耐心的,毕竟是亲生的娃),还要有足够的财力。

    1. Manolis Kellis: Origin of Life, Humans, Ideas, Suffering, and Happiness | Lex Fridman Podcast #123

      My summary:

      Biology:

      • Life = energy + self preservation
      • Neanderthals could be the reason why wolves/dogs are living closely with humans. Maybe in the past generations, dogs had no choice but to live with humans as they were scared of our power?
      • People evolved from the deep ocean (we're made in 70% of water). We're like transporting the sea with us now
      • Dolphins as mammals came back into the water
      • RNA invented proteins. Later RNA and proteins created DNA
      • Life is like any kind of self-reinforcement such as self-reinforcement of RNA molecules which lead to the evolution process
      • Europa (moon of Jupiter) already evolves some non-DNA life there. Life could exist in its under-ice ocean, perhaps in an environment similar to Earth's deep-ocean hydrothermal vents. It will be fascinating to get to know it

      Life:

      • Don't focus on goals but have a path to prevent the "rat race" sort of feeling
      • Almost every Hollywood movie has a happy ending. It prepares us, humans, really poorly for the bad times in life We need to read/watch more stories with a bad ending
      • Life is about accomplishing things, not about being happy all the time
      • As a parent, don't ask your kid if he's happy but what he's struggling to achieve
      • Most likely, we live on the best planet during the best time as the most beautiful mammals
      • If you understand yourself, you won't seek self-assurance in what other people think of you
      • It's hard to get to know your true self if you live all the time in the same location/environment and have the same friends who would like to have a stable image of you
  3. Aug 2020
  4. Jul 2020
    1. For example, a parent or guardian could be asked to make a payment of€0,01 to the controller via a banktransaction, including a brief confirmation in the description line of the transaction that the bank account holderis a holder of parental responsibility over the user. Where appropriate, an alternative method of verificationshould be provided to prevent undue discriminatory treatment of persons that do nothave a bank account.
    2. The EDPBacknowledges that there may be cases where verification is challenging (for example wherechildren providing their own consent have not yet established an ‘identity footprint’, or where parentalresponsibility is not easily checked.
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  7. Apr 2020
    1. “Hey, I have a good idea for a game,” I said. “It’s called the function machine game. I will think of a function machine. You tell me things to put into the function machine, and I will tell you what comes out. Then you have to guess what the function machine does.” He immediately liked this game and it has been a huge hit; he wants to play it all the time. We played it while driving to a party yesterday, and we played it this morning while I was in the shower.

      Great idea for a game with your kids to develop logical thinking in them

    1. In my book The Life of Dad (2018), I argue that fathers approach their role in myriad different ways dependent upon their environment but, when we look closely, all are fulfilling this teaching role. So, while Western dads might not appear to be passing on overtly practical life-skills, they do convey many of the social skills that are necessary to succeed in our competitive, capitalist world. It is still very much the case that the wheels of success in this environment are oiled by the niceties of social interaction – and knowing the rules of these interactions and the best sort of person to have them with gives you a massive head start, even if it is just dad’s knowledge of a good work placement.

      in Crowley, et al. (2001), parents were 3x more likely to explain science to boys than to girls

      Where parent-child attachment is concerned, the attachment between a mother and her child is best described as exclusive, an inward-looking dyad based on affection and care. In contrast, a father’s attachment to his child has elements of affection and care, but it is based on challenge.

  8. Mar 2020
  9. m.egwwritings.org m.egwwritings.org
    1. Each morning consecrate yourselves and your children to God for that day. Make no calculation for months or years; these are not yours. One brief day is given you. As if it were your last on earth, work during its hours for the Master. Lay all your plans before God, to be carried out or given up, as His providence shall indicate. Accept His plans instead of your own, even though their acceptance requires the abandonment of cherished projects. Thus the life will be molded more and more after the divine example; “and the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”
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  12. Jul 2019
    1. some parenting styles or early trauma, which can impair social and mental development, can contribute to creating the school bully. How about reaching out and asking the bully?

      The writer explain that bullying is a symptom of social impairment and mental development. Bullying have their own issues that need to be evaluated and possibly intervention. Writer suggest to reach out to bullies in order to find potential solutions for positive effects.

  13. Feb 2019
    1. Indeed, Japan’s parenting attitudes, as reflected in the World Values Survey, are closer to those in culturally remote Germany and the Netherlands than to China’s.

      This has got to be a huge difference from thirty years ago. Japan's demographic problems have meant that every kid has a future now.

  14. Dec 2018
    1. But the bottom line seems to be that we now have a better idea why rewards work better than punishment with pre-adolescent children. So if it is an explanation you need for why you should reward good behavior more than punish bad behavior, at least with pre-adolescent children, now you have one. The task that still remains, of course, is regulating one's own irritability, frustration and thus behavior in the face of annoying child behavior so that we can ignore it.
  15. Oct 2018
    1. The psychologist Richard Freed, who wrote a book about the dangers of screen-time for kids and how to connect them back to real world experiences, divides his time between speaking before packed rooms in Silicon Valley and his clinical practice with low-income families in the far East Bay, where he is often the first one to tell parents that limiting screen-time might help with attention and behavior issues.
    2. It wasn’t long ago that the worry was that rich students would have access to the internet earlier, gaining tech skills and creating a digital divide. Schools ask students to do homework online, while only about two-thirds of people in the U.S. have broadband internet service. But now, as Silicon Valley’s parents increasingly panic over the impact screens have on their children and move toward screen-free lifestyles, worries over a new digital divide are rising. It could happen that the children of poorer and middle-class parents will be raised by screens, while the children of Silicon Valley’s elite will be going back to wooden toys and the luxury of human interaction.
  16. Sep 2018
    1. helicopter parenting is ruining future generations. By kid-coddling, parents are not letting their children experience obstacles in life that they need to overcome in order to grow and gain more knowledge. The logos appeal "Seventy-one percent of American adults think of 18-to-29-year-olds-millennials, basically- as "selfish," and 65% of us think of them as "entitled." That's according to the latest Reason-Rupe Poll, a quarterly survey of 1,000 representative adult Americans." refers back to the thesis " Millennials Are Selfish and Entitled, and Helicopter Parents Are to Blame." The reading reaches out to parents who may be concerned on how to raise their children.

    1. Everywhere we remain unfree and chained to technology, whether we passionately affirm or deny it. But we are delivered over to it in the worst possible way when we regard it as something neutral;

      Technology has the human enslave. Giving great thought to this if you look around most humans cannot "live" without technology. Is as if technology has become the oxygen to human life. Parents now a days has use technology to do the parenting and the babysitting for them. You see 2-3 year old toddler glued to the phone. But if technology were to vanish human life would be a lot more difficult than it already is.

  17. May 2017
    1. Turn all her mother's pains and benefits KL I.iv.284  To laughter and contempt, that she may feel KL I.iv.285  How sharper than a serpent's tooth it is KL I.iv.286  To have a thankless child! Away, away! KL I.iv.286  Exit

      Let it be a wicked child who mocks the mother who cares for it. Make my daughter feel—make her feel how an ungrateful child hurts worse than a snakebite.—Now let’s leave. Go!

  18. Mar 2017
  19. Feb 2017
    1. feeling the most unhappy or depressed when their children are in middle school

      So, middle school is rough for parents also. I think we should get rid of it...

    2. "Parenting a tween is harder than mothering an infant,"

      People with infants don't want to hear or believe this.

  20. Aug 2016
    1. life is full of enough difficult things that we do not need to make life more difficult on purpose.
    2. We don’t have to turn every choice into an object lesson. Nor do we need to make childhood as joyless as adulthood can be.
  21. Oct 2013
    1. Nor let those parents, who have not had the fortune to get learning themselves, bestow the less care on the instruction of their children, but let them, on this very account, be more solicitous as to other particulars.

      Do not let the parents limitations pass on to their children.